Grandpa slips chicken to my veg­e­tar­ian kids

Chicago Sun-Times - - ENTERTAINMENT - DEAR ABBY

Dear Abby: I have been a veg­e­tar­ian for 12 years. My hus­band has been one on and off for five years. I thought our chil­dren, 7 and 3, had never had meat in their lives. I re­cently found out that my fa­ther- in- law has been feed­ing them chicken nuggets from fast food.

I was, and still am, very up­set about it. It has been six months, and I haven’t talked to him since and no longer let my kids go over there with­out my hus­band. He texted me an apol­ogy that seemed very sar­cas­tic and made me even an­grier.

Every­one says I need to get over it, but no one has con­fronted him about it. This has put a strain on my re­la­tion­ship with my hus­band. Can you please ad­vise me on what to do next?

Fu­ri­ous in the South Dear Fu­ri­ous: Text mes­sages are, by def­i­ni­tion, terse. Ac­cept the apol­ogy you were given and move for­ward. That said, how­ever, con­tinue to in­sist that your chil­dren be un­der their fa­ther’s su­per­vi­sion when they visit their grand­fa­ther be­cause his judg­ment is ques­tion­able, and he has al­ready shown that when they are with him, your wishes will not be en­forced.

Dear Abby: I have had a few neg­a­tive en­coun­ters with dog own­ers who in­vited me to their home and be­came up­set be­cause I pushed their pet away when it tried to jump/ lick/ nudge me ( al­though I do it gently).

While I un­der­stand I am en­ter­ing the dog’s ter­ri­tory, I think it’s in­con­sid­er­ate when pet own­ers not only refuse to re­strain their pets but also im­ply that I’m some­how a lesser hu­man be­ing be­cause I don’t want my per­sonal space in­fringed upon by an ag­gres­sive an­i­mal.

I would never al­low my chil­dren to be­have sim­i­larly around guests. If I knew peo­ple were un­com­fort­able with my chil­dren climb­ing on them, as a po­lite host, I would ask my chil­dren to leave that per­son alone.

To me it seems this is a mu­tual re­spect is­sue. Am I wrong?

Dog En­coun­ters Dear Dog En­coun­ters: No, you’re not wrong. Peo­ple have had scratches on their legs and items of cloth­ing ru­ined be­cause a dog jumped on them.

The prob­lem is that some dog own­ers iden­tify so strongly with their pet that they lose the abil­ity to dis­tin­guish be­tween it and them­selves — and take any­thing they per­ceive as a re­jec­tion per­son­ally.

While a guest may be tech­ni­cally on a dog’s turf, that doesn’t mean the guest should be fair game. Con­sid­er­ate hosts con­trol their dog un­til it has calmed down enough to be prop­erly in­tro­duced.

Dear Abby: I have a 19- yearold grand­daugh­ter who has three tat­toos and now a ring in her nose. Any sug­ges­tions as to what I might say to her to stop the de­struc­tion?

Grand­dad in New Or­leans Dear Grand­dad: Whether your grand­daugh­ter is “de­stroy­ing” her­self is a mat­ter of opin­ion. Ob­vi­ously, she doesn’t think so. That’s why I’m ad­vis­ing you to say noth­ing be­yond “I love you” to her be­cause she is now an adult and re­spon­si­ble for the choices she makes. Con­tact Dear Abby at dear­abby. com or P. O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

I re­cently found out that my fa­ther- in- law has been feed­ing them chicken nuggets from fast food.

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