As boyfriend loses hair, I lose in­ter­est

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Dear Abby: My phys­i­cal at­trac­tion to my boyfriend has sig­nif­i­cantly di­min­ished due to his bald­ness. I know this may seem shal­low, but I have lost all in­ter­est in in­ti­mate con­tact with him. When I look at his bald head or he rests his head on my shoul­der, it lit­er­ally makes my stom­ach lurch!

Our ro­mance be­gan 20 years ago when he still had hair. It fell out two years ago.

I still have feel­ings for him, but I don’t know how to get past this. I have tried turn­ing out the lights and even imag­in­ing I’m with some­body else.

I’m sure other women feel the same way I do. He tries to con­ceal his bald­ness by do­ing the “flip over” thing with his side hair, so I know he’s self- con­scious about it. But I am so turned off.

Can you give me some advice? I haven’t said any­thing be­cause I don’t want to of­fend him. I am up­set and dis­cour­aged and no longer look for­ward to see­ing him be­cause of this. It would be an aw­ful rea­son to leave him, yet I can’t stand look­ing at his head! Turned Off in Cincin­nati Dear Turned Off: Ask your­self whether you are turned off by your boyfriend’s bald­ness, or whether it’s his at­tempt to hide it with the un­con­vinc­ing com­bover. If it’s the lat­ter, the so­lu­tion might be for him to go the way of Dwayne John­son or Vin Diesel and shave his head.

How­ever, if you truly can’t han­dle the fact that his locks have flown, then do him — and your­self — a fa­vor and turn him loose so he can find a lady who ap­pre­ci­ates him for what’s go­ing on UN­DER his scalp rather than over it.

Some­one once said, “You can fool Mother Na­ture, but you can’t fool Fa­ther Time.” Aging, and the con­se­quences it brings, hap­pens to women as well as men. Keep that in mind as you con­sider jump­ing back into the dat­ing pool.

Dear Abby: I am a 51- year- old mar­ried woman. I have a friend who is 68 and divorced. We have a great time to­gether jok­ing and laugh­ing. How­ever, lately I have no­ticed changes in her be­hav­ior that are alarm­ing enough that I’m re­con­sid­er­ing our re­la­tion­ship.

An ex­am­ple: To­day we went to a flea mar­ket and I watched her pick up and try on a ring. Then she pre­tended to re­turn it, palmed the ring and slipped it into her pocket. I was shocked.

I thought I was see­ing things, but it hap­pened a sec­ond time — this time with a heart pen­dant. Next she stole a bot­tle of hand lo­tion, which were three for $ 1. I know she has money, but she’s also cheap.

I am ap­palled by her be­hav­ior and don’t know what to do. Do I tell her I caught her, or let it go and not shop with her again? I don’t want to be as­so­ci­ated with a thief. Help! Not the Same in the East Dear Not the Same: I, too, am con­cerned about what you saw, and no longer shop­ping with this friend is a good idea.

Does she have chil­dren you can con­tact? Be­cause these are “alarm­ing changes” in the woman’s per­son­al­ity, she may need a phys­i­cal and neu­ro­log­i­cal ex­am­i­na­tion to make sure she’s not se­ri­ously ill. Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby. com or P. O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069. To or­der “How to Write Let­ters for All Oc­ca­sions,” send your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money or­der for $ 7 ( U. S. funds), to: Dear Abby — Let­ter Book­let, P. O. Box 447, Mount Mor­ris, IL 61054- 0447. Ship­ping and han­dling are in­cluded in the price.

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