Boy, 2, wants nails pink like Mommy’s

DearAbby: Is it wrong to paint my 2 ½ - year- old boy’s fingernails when he begs me to? I’ ma stay- at- homemomand very close withmy son. When I paint my nails ( I paint them pink), my son sees me and insists I paint his toes and fingers “just like Mommy.”

I see it as all in fun, but my mother inlaw makes snide comments about him being a boy and that boys shouldn’t have their nails painted. My husband has also said I should stop.

I know my son will want me to paint his nails only a little while longer. It’s not harming anyone, and I’m sick of all the gender barriers. Am I wrong here? Pretty in Pink Dear Pretty: Your mother- in- law appears to think that polishing your 2- year- old’s nails will “make” him effeminate. It’s nomore valid than her not doing it has “made” your husband masculine. Ignore the snide remarks because you are not going to change her.

Whether your little boy wants you to continue painting his nails pink— or, for that matter, towear something pink— is far less important than making sure he knows you love and support him and it’s OK to be HIMSELF. That’s theway parents raise confident and successful children. Dear Abby: My boyfriend, “Al,” and I have been together for two years off and on. We dated casually for six months before we decided to be exclusive. Unbeknownst to him, I was also sleeping with someone else, “Brandon.”

Al and I had a fight and broke up for a fewmonths, and during that time I slept with another good friend of mine, “Marc.” When Marc and I decided it wasn’t serious and moved on, Al and I got back together.

I didn’t feel obligated to tell Al about it at the time, since “technically” I did nothing wrong. But as we became more and more serious, it occurred to me that itwas a lie of omission, since we interact with both men on a social level. I told Al, and he isn’t handling it well, so now I ’mat a loss aboutwhat to do.

Honesty and time are key, I know, but he is distancing himself from me. Do I let him go? I am fighting hard right now, but I’m feeling beaten down at every turn. Wrong in the East Dear Wrong: Not all relationships last forever. It’s possible that this one has run its course.

If you and Al had agreed you would both be abstinent after the separation, he has reason to be upset. If you had promised each other there would be an accounting of who each My mother- in- law makes snide comments about him being a boy and that boys shouldn’t have their nails painted. of you had been with and you didn’t live up to it, I can see why he would be distancing.

However, if an understanding wasn’t in place, then youwere free to be with others and you did nothing wrong. If Al no longer wants to be with you— forwhatever reason— you have no choice but to let him go.

For your sake, quit allowing yourself to be beaten down and make it as painless for yourself as possible. Dear Abby: What is your opinion about elderly parents who no longer drive having to pay their children to drive them to appointments, grocery, etc.? Think of all the times parents drove them when theywere growing up. Returning the Favor Dear Returning the Favor: Most adult children with a memory would never dream of asking to be paid for driving their elderly parents. A child whowould do this must be desperate for money.

Inmy opinion, because they are paying for it anyway, the parents should make other arrangements for transportation. Contact Dear Abby at dearabby. com or P. O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.