Re­union with friends turned out to be just a sales hus­tle

Chicago Sun-Times - - ENTERTAINM­ENT - DEAR ABBY

Dear Abby: “Lila,” a friend from my high school days I hadn’t seen for years, called me out of the blue and said her mom wanted to see me again. Her mother and I had been friends for years. “Mom” was a spe­cial lady, and I al­ways ad­mired her, so I agreed.

When I ar­rived at the restau­rant, I greeted them and we en­gaged in a lit­tle con­ver­sa­tion. When I went to or­der, Lila pulled out a sales book she was sell­ing items out of. Be­cause I didn’t want to dis­ap­point her mother, I looked at each item. The only thing I could af­ford was an um­brella for $29. I al­ready had a $5 one at home (my bud­get).

Abby, I felt used and in­sulted. Lila’s only goal was sell­ing me some­thing — not re­unit­ing me with her mother. Lila is bet­ter off fi­nan­cially than I am. She owns her own home and drives a brand-new SUV. My car was bought used for $2,000.

How do I tol­er­ate a per­son like her? She wants all she can get, even if it means us­ing an old friend. By the way, she was decked out in her fash­ion­able finest and or­dered the cheap­est thing on the menu. Sad Friend on the East Coast

Dear Sad Friend: You do not have to tol­er­ate a per­son like Lila, and you should not feel pres­sured to buy some­thing from any­one that you don’t want or need. If Lila calls again, in­form her that you are not in­ter­ested in any­thing she is sell­ing and end the call.

Dear Abby: I went through an ugly di­vorce. My sec­ond wife, “Marci,” is a liar, a cheat and a thief. She claims she’s re­li­gious, but she gam­bles. She opens bank ac­counts that I’m not aware of and calls con­stantly if I leave the house. She claims she’s jeal­ous. I think it’s more of a con­trol is­sue, and I leave for peace of mind.

Re­cently, her rel­a­tives asked for a pri­vate meet­ing to dis­cuss her be­hav­ior and shared what I feared. Af­ter­ward, I called her sup­posed ex-hus­band and he told me they are still mar­ried. When I asked Marci to show

me her di­vorce pa­pers, she re­fused. I have talked with my pas­tor and at­tor­ney. They said give her six weeks and then move on. What do you sug­gest? Taken for a Fool in Alabama

Dear Taken: Lis­ten to these two un­bi­ased ad­vis­ers! Se­cure any prop­erty or in­for­ma­tion Marci might use to take fur­ther ad­van­tage of you, and take com­fort in the fact that be­cause you are not legally mar­ried, you are not re­spon­si­ble for any debts she has or will run up. Un­der­stand that Marci is a con artist, and please do ex­actly what your pas­tor and your at­tor­ney have in­structed. If she keeps call­ing, block her or change your phone num­ber. And if she stalks you — and she may — talk to the po­lice.

Dear Abby: I’ve got­ten into wear­ing swim trunks in the summer as nor­mal at­tire. They’re good for the hot streets, and no one has said any­thing. I pair them with a white T-shirt or no shirt. I plan to do it again this summer. What do you think? Cool Dude in Penn­syl­va­nia

Dear Dude: If you’re in great shape and the neigh­bors aren’t scan­dal­ized, then what I think doesn’t mat­ter. (Swim) suit your­self.

I will, how­ever, of­fer this: A wise woman once ad­vised me to al­ways look my best when I went out be­cause in­vari­ably, if I didn’t, I’d en­counter some­one I wished I looked bet­ter for and re­gret that I hadn’t made more ef­fort. And you know what? She was spot on. Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. For ev­ery­thing you need to know about wed­ding plan­ning, or­der “How to Have a Lovely Wed­ding.” Send your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money or­der for $8, to: Dear Abby, Wed­ding Book­let, P.O. Box 447, Mount Mor­ris, IL 61054-0447.

LILA’S ONLY GOAL WAS SELL­ING ME SOME­THING — NOT RE­UNIT­ING ME WITH HER MOTHER. HOW DO I TOL­ER­ATE A PER­SON LIKE HER?

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