I’d like another woman in our bed, but hus­band re­sists

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Dear Abby: I’ve been mar­ried for five years. Be­fore meet­ing my hus­band, I never thought I would find “the one.” Re­cently, I have been hav­ing feel­ings of want­ing to ex­pe­ri­ence sleep­ing with a woman. I’ve al­ways been sex­u­ally ad­ven­tur­ous, and I have men­tioned a three­some, but he isn’t in­ter­ested.

I don’t want to die with­out ex­pe­ri­enc­ing sex with a woman, but I also love my hus­band dearly, and we have a great part­ner­ship that I don’t want to de­stroy. Help! Woman Seeks Woman in New York

Dear Woman: It’s time for another frank con­ver­sa­tion with your hus­band. Ex­plain clearly that al­though you love him dearly and do not want to de­stroy your part­ner­ship, you are bi-curious and you would like to ex­pe­ri­ence sex with a woman. How­ever, if his re­ac­tion is neg­a­tive, you must then de­cide how im­por­tant ful­fill­ing this fan­tasy is to you in light of the fact that it could threaten your mar­riage.

Dear Abby: My wife of 10 years keeps all kinds of se­crets from me. We let her adult daugh­ter, “Maude,” move in. Maude is 35 and has one daugh­ter. I re­cently found out that Maude is preg­nant again. I heard they had de­cided to “sur­prise me” with the news. (The fa­ther is the same guy as be­fore.) I’m tired of be­ing the third wheel, and I think it’s time for me to call it quits. What do you think? Stay or Go in Con­necti­cut

Dear Stay or Go: I’m glad you asked. What I think is that you are out­num­bered. Maude should be liv­ing on her own or with the fa­ther of her chil­dren. If I am read­ing be­tween the lines cor­rectly, you have al­lowed your­self to be stuck with the fi­nan­cial bur­den that Maude and her ir­re­spon­si­ble boyfriend should be car­ry­ing. I also think it’s time you gave your wife an ul­ti­ma­tum: Ei­ther Maude and her daugh­ter move out or you will. Which­ever op­tion she chooses, your sit­u­a­tion will im­prove.

Dear Abby: I’m a stay-at-home mother. My hus­band works Mon­day to Fri­day, 10 hours a day. We have been mar­ried nearly four years. My prob­lem is we never have alone time. I feel if it con­tin­ues, we will just fall apart.

On week­ends, we sit home, and it’s claus­tro­pho­bic. We have only one ve­hi­cle, which he needs to use, so dur­ing the week, I’m stuck at home. Be­ing home 24/7 is driv­ing me nuts. We never get out and have fam­ily time or a date night. I tell him we need it, but he doesn’t seem to care. Could you guide me on what to do? In Need of Cou­ple’s ’Time

Dear In Need: Stop telling your hus­band “we” need a date night and say in­stead, “I need this! If you want our mar­riage to sur­vive, you will take me out of here so we can spend time with­out the kid (or kids) be­cause I feel like I’m go­ing nuts.”

A date night ev­ery few weeks or once a month isn’t too much to ask for. If he is wor­ried about the ex­pense, make sure he knows a ham­burger, a sand­wich, a drive ALONE WITH HIM is what you need. But if he still doesn’t seem to care, then your prob­lem is greater than cabin fever. Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069. Good ad­vice for ev­ery­one — teens to se­niors — is in “The Anger in All of Us and How to Deal With It.” To or­der, send your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money or­der for $8, to: Dear Abby, Anger Book­let, P.O. Box 447, Mount Mor­ris, IL 61054-0447. (Ship­ping and han­dling are in­cluded in the price.)


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