Bride charges wedding guests

DEAR HELOISE >> My first cousin and

I were very close growing up, but now that her wedding is coming up in mid-August, she has gotten very demanding, and I believe she's forgotten her manners. She wants to charge people to go to her wedding.

We come from a large family, and the groom's family is fairly large as well. Both of them want to have this huge blowout wedding, but they really can't afford it. She asked my opinion about charging people a fee, and I told her that I'm against it. I told her not to scale back the wedding to a much smaller and simpler affair instead.

The future bride was so angry at the idea that she said I wasn't invited. They plan on asking for $100 for single people and $150 for couples. I think the whole idea is tacky! Is this a “thing” these days, or is this the “new wedding trend”?

— Brenda T., Dexter,

Missouri

Brenda, I hate to say it, but this is not the first time I've heard of a bride and groom charging for entrance to their wedding. From the letters I get, it never works out well.

People are invited to a wedding to help a couple celebrate the beginning of an important chapter of their lives. It's a time to share the happiness and excitement of the moment with others. The bride and groom (or their families) pay for their wedding, so if they can't afford the wedding that they want, perhaps they should wait and save until they can pay for the wedding they're dreaming of. After all, there's much more to a good marriage than just the wedding ceremony.

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