Last word on astrology
Monday, JULY 4, 2022
Happy Birthday: Make simplicity, moderation and kindness your priorities. Getting along with others will improve your popularity and support whatever goal you want to achieve. Look at whatever you want to pursue and weigh the pros and cons before setting your sights on reaching your expectations. A solid strategy and wellplanned schedule will strengthen your chance to reach your destiny. Your numbers are 7, 12, 24, 29, 34, 39, 45.
Aries (March 21-April 19): Look inward and plan to make personal changes that will revitalize you spiritually, mentally and physically. Welcome a challenge. ★★★
Taurus (April 20-May 20): Inconsistency is the enemy. Look over your options, and choose to step forward instead of standing still. A friend or relative will offer a different perspective that gives insight into the best way to get ahead. ★★★★★
Gemini (May 21-June 20): Rethink your strategy before bringing up a sensitive issue with someone close to you. You’ll gain ground if you use charm, integrity and a passionate plea for assistance.
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Cancer (June 21-July 22): Be subtle. Speak the truth without revealing personal feelings or information. A meaningful change will warm your heart. Focus on doing your best to make a difference. A unique solution you come up with will impress someone who can help. ★★★★
Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): An emotional situation will lead to beneficial change and financial opportunity. Embrace what comes your way by turning a lemon into lemonade.
Personal growth, selfimprovement and honing your persuasive technique will pay off. Romance is in the stars.
★★★
Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): An experience you have will be a blessing. Don’t shy away from change when it can bring you closer to living life your way. Refuse to let an emotional scene cost you your reputation, position or status.
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Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Pick up the pace. Timing is everything. Finishing what you start will show onlookers that you are up for any task that comes your way. Be open regarding your expectations, and you will get valuable input that leads to financial gain.
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Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Uncertainty will hold you back. Gather information to find out where you stand. Knowledge is an asset when dealing with money, health or contractual matters. Ask questions, get what you want in writing and change only what’s necessary.
★★★★
Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Listen, verify and keep your eye on the ball. Don’t pass along information without proper backup. Work on improving partnerships. Focus your energy on something lucrative that you enjoy doing.
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Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan.
19): Keep a tally of how much you spend; set a budget for entertainment. A positive change at home will lift your spirits and improve your lifestyle. ★★★★★
Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): It’s up to you to make things happen. Concentrate on your home, educational pursuits and expanding your interests. Adding new skills to your repertoire will help you feel enthusiastic about your potential. ★★★
Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): A friend, relative or peer will misinterpret your words. Be a good listener, and refrain from offering information about your personal life, beliefs or longterm goals. Evaluate a joint venture before becoming too involved in something unfamiliar or unrealistic. ★★★
Dear Amy: I was married for 46 years to a man who probably shouldn’t have been married at all. He was not affectionate, even during sex, cheated on me at least once, and when I asked why he married me, he said, “Because it was the thing to do.”
He passed away in 2021, disabled and bedridden. I was his sole caregiver for 10 years.
About four years ago, I casually friended a man on social media. We are both in our 60s. He has shared that he is in an unhappy marriage. He says he stays with her because there’s a slim chance he could come into some money.
His financial situation is bad, and he knows mine is.
He lives about three hours away.
We message several times a week. He started out calling me “hon” or “honey” and on occasion “sweetheart.”
He ends each message with a heart emoji.
He has told me that if he was financially stable, he’d race to meet me.
He mentioned recently that when he was between marriages, he’d met a woman online and had traveled to meet her.
That’s when a bell went off.
I have already made clear to him that I will not do to another woman what was done to me. He’s not going to divorce his wife. He still wants to meet up, but I have no desire to drive such a distance just for lunch, nor to have him come here.
He seems like a nice person. He’s never made any off-color remarks or suggestions.
Am I the one who’s reading more into this — or is he?
Do I just abruptly stop messaging him, or should I continue with very “vanilla” messages until any interest is gone?
— Wondering why
Dear Wondering: According to your account, a bell went off when you learned that this man raced to meet a woman he’d met online when he was in-between marriages. He wasn’t married at the time, and so he wasn’t cheating on anyone when he did that.
Maybe your bell went off because you learned that you weren’t the first woman this man had befriended online.
I suspect that he has other “hons and sweethearts” out there, and whether this is for his emotional, friendship or financial gain (possibly all three) — this is how he rolls. It is possible for a very nice person to have relationships with lots of other online sweethearts; all the same he is not a good match for you.
It’s very easy to call someone “honey.” It is much harder to actually be a honey.
Your extremely lengthy relationship experience has been to suppress your own needs in order to serve someone else. I hope you will grow into your own strength and find realworld experiences that are honest as well as fulfilling.
Dear Amy: Our township offers a bus service for senior citizens.
Should the driver be tipped, and if so, how much?
Dear Elder: You are fortunate that your township offers this service, and you are smart to use it!
No, I don’t believe that you should tip the driver.
This person is either an employee or a dedicated volunteer. The best way to respond is to thank the driver sincerely, find out the person’s name (if it is a regular driver), and write a note of appreciation to your town’s mayor, asking that it be shared.
Contact Amy Dickinson via email, askamy@amydickinson.com .