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I’m a 50-something woman who’s been married for 35 years. About a year ago, to spice up our marriage, I started sending my husband seductive pictures of myself during the day. He really loved them and wanted more. Over time, the pictures I sent him got more daring. One of his co-workers accidentally saw one of the pictures and commented to my husband about it. My husband told me, and at first I was embarrassed by it. But after thinking about it, I began to really like the thought of strange men seeing me. I started sending my husband more and more risque pictures. I couldn’t wait for my husband to come home from work so I could hear what the guys had said about me.

I know this isn’t right, but I can’t seem to stop. I think I’m addicted to this. But seeing as I’m not really hurting anyone and I think I’m putting smiles on some faces, do I need to seek help to stop this?

— Exposed

Exposing oneself to nonconsenting witnesses is never OK — not on the street, not on the internet and (especially) not in your husband’s office. And even if his co-workers seem to enjoy it, they’re his coworkers. It’s inappropriate. Your husband could lose his job. There’s nothing wrong with trying to spice up your sex life, but I suggest you try a more savory seasoning. And if you feel this habit has become addictive, it’s certainly worth seeing a counselor.

I have a gripe with smokers who drop their butts on the ground. It’s a common practice, but I find it simply inexcusable. Today, while traveling on errands near my home, I witnessed it yet again. I watched as one woman got out of her car in the parking lot of a store, took a long drag on her cig and then dropped it on the pavement and walked into the store, passing a handy butt receptacle standing right at the entrance. Not five minutes later, as I waited behind a truck at a red light, the driver lowered his window and threw the remains of his cigarette into the adjacent lane. Look along the curb of any city street and you will find cigarette butts by the hundreds. They are even scattered along the berm of my own small country road. Some jerks even empty entire ashtrays into the street!

Cigarette butts are litter of the worst kind. They are slow to decompose, full of nicotine and other toxic elements, and contaminated by saliva. If it didn’t fall from a tree or grow from the ground, then it has no place in nature. I dare even one smoker to write back and explain what justifies this dirty, lazy, inconsiderate practice. And I challenge all smokers to stop littering the ground with what is essentially their drug paraphernalia. Your right to pollute your body and your home does not give you the right to pollute public areas, so knock it off! — I Like It Clean and

Green

If you can’t quit smoking for your own health, at least be cognizant of the Earth’s health and properly dispose of your butts.

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ACROSS

1 Carpenter’s file 5 Necklace pellet 9 Thorns in one’s

side 14 __ mater 15 Wrinkly citrus

fruit 16 Neckwear named for a British racecourse 17 1970s-’80s fashion inspired by astronauts’ footwear 19 The “a” sound in

“above” 20 Like Frosted

Flakes’ coating 21 Responsibility 23 “Above,” in verse 24 DVD holder 26 Series

installment 28 Like easy, wellpaying jobs 31 Traditional 15th

anniversary gift 33 1993 Presidential Medal of Freedom awardee Arthur 34 Vietnamese soup 35 Souped-up

vehicle 38 __ Speedwagon 39 “Was I

premature?” 41 Fútbol cheer 42 NASA explorers 44 “Dig in!” 45 Coke or Pepsi 46 Most sour 48 Humped beast 49 “Who Let the Dogs Out?” one-hit wonder 51 Carry with effort 53 __ Grande 54 Colored eye part 56 Citrus-flavored

diet drink 60 “__ have a clue” 62 1990s cartoon series featuring a classic 8-Down dog 64 Conical home 65 Short skirt 66 First blank on

many forms 67 Donkeys 68 Trebek of

“Jeopardy!” 69 Heavenly

spheres

DOWN

1 Ewes’ guys 2 Moises of the

2007-’08 Mets 3 Urban pollution 4 Dashing style 5 Regatta markers 6 Sense of self 7 Glee club voice 8 Mickey Mouse

creator 9 “Tell your friends” 10 Corner PC key 11 Teacher’s

domain 12 Hauled to the

shop 13 Look steadily (at) 18 Donkey’s cry 22 Final result 25 Rebound, like

sound 27 H.S. exam for

college hopefuls 28 Fisherman’s

soup fish 29 PC manual reader 30 Play some b-ball 32 Prickly flowers 34 Dorm room

decoration 36 Shoppe sign

adjective 37 “Let’s Make a __” 39 Home-wrecking

insects 40 Witness’ promise 43 Sheep cry 45 City near Naples 47 Real mystery 48 Terse 49 Big name in

water filtration 50 Senate staffers 52 Stick on, as a

label 55 Gardener’s

bagful 57 Fly high 58 Hair care tool 59 “Planet of the __” 61 Born, in alumni

newsletters 63 Single