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Aries (March 21-April 19): Con­sider the im­por­tance of pass­ing on a ver­bal legacy of pos­i­tive sto­ries. Those who hear of the strength and for­ti­tude of ear­lier gen­er­a­tions will be in­spired to find great­ness in­side them­selves, too. Taurus (April 20-May 20): A re­la­tion­ship that has been at odds now has a good chance at align­ing most aus­pi­ciously for both par­ties. Dif­fer­ences be­come less sig­nif­i­cant as you see ways to serve a mu­tual in­ter­est. Gemini (May 21-June 21): You want to be in­spired. You want to be chal­lenged. The per­son who can do this with­out think­ing, flinch­ing or wor­ry­ing in the least how you’ll re­act to the dare will kin­dle a mighty at­trac­tion in you. Cancer (June 22-July 22): Don’t for­get about the sto­ries com­mon to your fam­ily or group. These ver­bal tra­di­tions, passed from gen­er­a­tion to gen­er­a­tion, com­mu­ni­cate the shared val­ues of the group, which in­clude strength and com­mit­ment. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): The nat­u­ral drive is to re­lieve ten­sion. That’s why some peo­ple can’t re­sist pop­ping the bub­ble wrap. How­ever, it would be a mis­take, and a missed op­por­tu­nity, to let the ten­sion out of a re­la­tion­ship too soon. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): In most of life’s deep ques­tions, the an­swers lie in the con­text. Be­cause each sit­u­a­tion is unique and com­plex, one quan­tifi­able an­swer is never go­ing to fit all. In a re­lated story, be wary of vi­ta­min sales­men and the like to­day. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): You’ve so much en­ergy to bring to an ar­range­ment that find­ing an­other leader who matches your level will be nearly im­pos­si­ble. As­sum­ing you’re go­ing to lead, now is the time to work on your vi­sion. Hone one that will be good for all. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): You need to make an in­tel­lec­tual con­nec­tion to­day even more than you did yes­ter­day, oth­er­wise you’re go­ing to feel alone on your thought plane and un­sure about what to want next. Seek com­pany with the like- and high-minded. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Sci­en­tist and states­man Ben Franklin called his habit of jour­nal­ing the “con­stant felic­ity” of his life. You, too, will de­light in keep­ing track of your life in this way, as it will give you clar­ity now and later, a life­line to the past. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Your virtues are not be­ing dis­puted, nor your con­tri­bu­tions con­tested. And yet, you still feel op­posed by some­one who is sup­posed to be on your side. It’s time to ask: What is this ar­gu­ment re­ally about? Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): If you got your way all of the time, life would be­come un­bear­ably bor­ing. To­day will bring an en­counter with some­one who chal­lenges you and makes you feel driven to earn re­spect and at­ten­tion. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You never seem to tire of try­ing to make life bet­ter for the ones you love. Their hap­pi­ness is the ba­sis for yours. That per­son who finds it easy to get and stay happy is the golden gift in your life.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com and click “Write the Author” on her page. DEAR ABBY >> Is it pos­si­ble that peo­ple can just fall out of love with each other? We have been mar­ried for 21 years and have three kids who are older. Over the last five years, my wife and I have stopped com­mu­ni­cat­ing. We don’t do any­thing to­gether and have lit­tle de­sire to be with each other any­more.

We are good par­ents, but as far as be­ing hus­band and wife, we have pretty much ne­glected each other emo­tion­ally and phys­i­cally. Nei­ther of us has strayed. We haven’t been to a mar­riage coun­selor be­cause I just don’t love my wife any­more, and I’m not say­ing this to be mean. It’s just how I feel. We have failed each other mis­er­ably as hus­band and wife, and she de­serves bet­ter. She has been a great mom to our three kids, and I would never take that away from her.

Can peo­ple stay in a love­less mar­riage? We have talked it over, and we both agree there’s noth­ing left here for each other. I have al­ready told her she needs to do what­ever it takes to make her­self happy be­cause I can no longer be here for her emo­tion­ally or phys­i­cally. — Fell out of love

DEAR FELL OUT OF LOVE >> Peo­ple some­times re­main in love­less mar­riages for re­li­gious or fi­nan­cial rea­sons, be­cause they are afraid a di­vorce would trau­ma­tize the chil­dren, or be­cause they are afraid of be­ing alone. If you and your wife agree that there is noth­ing left for ei­ther of you, and mar­riage coun­sel­ing won’t fix the dys­func­tion in your re­la­tion­ship, then the log­i­cal next step would be an am­i­ca­ble sep­a­ra­tion or di­vorce.

DEAR ABBY >> I have the most amaz­ing hus­band. He helps with the house­work, pro­vides for us and loves me un­con­di­tion­ally. Not a day goes by that I don’t hear how pre­cious I am to him. It’s like a fairy tale. Ex­cept — we never had a for­mal wed­ding, just a court­house cer­e­mony with no­body there but us two. You see, we had to get the pa­per­work done so I wouldn’t have to keep re­new­ing my visa sta­tus ev­ery few months.

Now we can be to­gether in the U.S. with no is­sues. But I feel like we skipped an im­por­tant life mile­stone, and a wed­ding would be the per­fect op­por­tu­nity to unite both of our fam­i­lies from around the world.

The prob­lem is my hus­band is happy with the way things are. He re­fuses to spend money on a party and says, “If we ever have one, it will be when we are rich, sta­ble, and able to af­ford it by our­selves.” (My par­ents are more than will­ing to pay!) I feel like a life­long dream was taken away from me. Your thoughts?

— Miss­ing out in Vir­ginia

DEAR MISS­ING OUT >> My thoughts are you have a stel­lar hus­band AND your visa prob­lem is solved. I’d say you have done quite well. If your hus­band prefers to post­pone the fancy cel­e­bra­tion un­til you are more fi­nan­cially sta­ble and foot the bill him­self, you should re­spect him for it. I know I do.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

What teens need to know about sex, drugs, AIDS and get­ting along with peers and par­ents is in “What Ev­ery Teen Should Know.” Send your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money or­der for $7 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Teen Book­let, P.O. Box 447, Mount Mor­ris, IL 61054-0447. (Ship­ping and han­dling are in­cluded in the price.)

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