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Aries (March 21-April 19): The peo­ple who know you best are not al­ways those you live with or have known for many years, or the ones you call fam­ily. Like­minds, ob­ser­vant peo­ple and kin­dred spir­its will be the trea­sures of your life to­day. Taurus (April 20-May 20): You don’t have to worry about push­ing the lim­its of your in­tel­lect or your cre­ativ­ity. It all un­folds rather nat­u­rally. You’ll be com­ing up with answers for as long as you keep ques­tion­ing. Gemini (May 21-June 21): Some­one clever has in­trigued and in­spired you. Now you’re get­ting in­creas­ingly in­volved in chas­ing that in­spi­ra­tion so you can build on it. You so want to con­struct some­thing here for your very own. Can­cer (June 22-July 22): Po­lar­iza­tion will get old pretty fast. Do what you do when the printer runs out of black ink: Fall back on the color car­tridge to see even more of this pic­ture. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Open your mind and your senses to what other peo­ple are re­ally look­ing for. Lis­ten to the mes­sage in­side the mes­sage. Gaps be­tween peo­ple that seemed too dis­tant to bother with can be closed with no com­pro­mise to in­tegrity. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): You once thought of some­one as an ad­ver­sary, but now you’re be­gin­ning to won­der if the two of you might make a pow­er­ful team. Of course, first you have to agree to be on the same side. Ease into this. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): If your de­sire is weak, and you aren’t given what you want, the de­nial is no big deal. If your de­sire is weak and you get what you want, the vic­tory is no big deal, ei­ther. You’re bet­ter off waiting for some­thing you re­ally, re­ally want. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): There’s a stress­ful lit­tle knot to un­ravel. Don’t get out the scis­sors just yet. Go back to the draw­ing board. There’s got to be a way to have two win­ners in this sce­nario. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): With these com­pli­cated so­cial dy­nam­ics, it may help to think of your­self as a part of na­ture — a par­tic­u­lar kind of an­i­mal with very spe­cific adap­ta­tions and tal­ents. The bet­ter you know your­self, the hap­pier you’ll be. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): To­day’s sto­ry­line may not be all that emo­tional or remarkable, but it will seem to have the dra­matic mu­sic and light­ing nec­es­sary to evoke the de­sired au­di­ence re­sponse. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): If you place too small a value on your work, you’ll be stuck at that agree­ment. On the other hand, if you price too high you’ll be passed up. Luck­ily, you have a tal­ent for find­ing the sweet spot be­tween sup­ply and de­mand. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): As the sign of the fish you know that not ev­ery mer­maid wants to be part of the world on land. Right now you’d rather swim in your grotto and en­joy the spe­cial things you’ve col­lected there.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators.com/author/ hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> Four years ago, after three years of mar­riage, I had a brief af­fair and was caught by my hus­band, who is a doc­tor. We had lit­tle girls, so he de­cided not to di­vorce me, but I had to cut my long hair short in a man’s style and stop wear­ing makeup or jew­elry ex­cept for my wed­ding ring. He do­nated all my de­signer clothes, and bought me men’s clothes. I have begged him to let me wear women’s clothes again and al­low me to wear even a short woman’s hairstyle, but he re­fuses.

Our two daugh­ters are old enough now to no­tice, and they are a lit­tle em­bar­rassed by how Mommy dresses. I no longer have any de­sire for an af­fair, but sim­ply want to look at­trac­tive. I was a beauty queen in col­lege, but now even my fe­male friends think dress­ing like this is my idea. Some­times I feel so em­bar­rassed in pub­lic that I want to hide. What do you sug­gest I try to get him to let me wear my hair long and women’s clothes again?

— Wants to be me again

DEAR WANTS TO BE YOU >> I hope you are aware that what your hus­band has been do­ing is con­sid­ered emo­tional abuse. What you did was wrong, but you should not have to spend the rest of your life look­ing like a man if you don’t want to.

To say that your hus­band is con­trol­ling would be an un­der­state­ment. Be­cause you need more help than any­one can give you in a let­ter, I’m urg­ing you to con­tact the Na­tional Do­mes­tic Vi­o­lence Hot­line. The web­site is the­hot­line.org; the toll-free phone num­ber is 800799-7233. Please don’t put this off.

DEAR ABBY >> I am 64 and still a vir­gin. I now feel I haven’t done all the things I wanted to do with my life, and I re­al­ize I won’t live for­ever. When I see young kids hav­ing fun, I re­gret wast­ing my younger years.

The big­gest is­sue I have is with be­ing a vir­gin. I have al­ways be­lieved in true love, but I still haven’t met any­one. I have been go­ing to bars and have mul­ti­ple ac­counts on dat­ing web­sites, but no men close to my age have been in­ter­ested.

A young man who is 39 has asked to meet up. Should I go on a date with him and see what hap­pens? I know it’s wrong, but I think maybe with a younger guy I could do all the things I wanted to do. What should I do? Please help.

— Pru­dence the vir­gin

DEAR PRU­DENCE >> Think care­fully about what it is you re­ally want. If you go on that date, the chances are that you will suc­ceed in los­ing your vir­gin­ity. But don’t count on any­thing more than that hap­pen­ing.

I’m un­clear about what you mean by “do­ing all the things you wanted to do,” but true love takes time and com­mit­ment to de­velop, and rush­ing to catch up on all the things you think you have missed is no guar­an­tee you will find it.

DEAR ABBY >> I’m new in the busi­ness world and I have a ques­tion. At net­work­ing events, how do I po­litely ex­cuse my­self from a con­ver­sa­tion when I en­counter a “Stage 1” clinger?

— Trapped again in Toronto

DEAR TRAPPED AGAIN >> Be­cause at net­work­ing events it’s im­por­tant to make as many con­tacts as pos­si­ble, you should say, “It’s been nice meet­ing you, but please ex­cuse me be­cause I have to cir­cu­late, and so should you.”

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

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