Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby

Aries (March 21-April 19): You’re solid. You know what’s right for your life and what’s not. You can and will keep the neg­a­tive forces at a dis­tance, not with anger but with dig­nity. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Things are not black and white for you — or for any­one, re­ally. That’s why this will be a day in which you will choose not to judge, and not to throw your at­ten­tion away on neg­a­tiv­ity. Gemini (May 21-June 21): Money might not be able to buy true love or de­vo­tion or any­thing that’s re­ally im­por­tant, but money can still solve a lot of prob­lems. You’ll solve prob­lems with your money to­day. Cancer (June 22-July 22): You will be of­fered what you wanted and de­served sev­eral months ago. You can af­ford to take time with your response. Also, don’t rush to grant ac­cep­tance — but do ac­cept. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): It’s won­der­ful when they re­ally get you. It’s also not so bad when they don’t. There’s a lot of in­ner life that is sparked by the flint of that. Your mind starts spin­ning when it’s mad! Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): All those mild perks — you need to ap­pre­ci­ate them. Don’t com­pare. This is a time to home in on what’s good. Keep your pas­sion alive. Only you can set the limit to your po­ten­tial. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): You can crush up the ten­sion in a room by just speak­ing. The words you use are not as im­por­tant as how you use them. Your use of this tal­ent will fur­ther your aims. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): The de­ci­sion seems big. You could de­lib­er­ate, make your pros and cons list, call your mother, etc., but that would be pageantry. You al­ready know what to do. You’ve known for a while now. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): This group you need to be a part of now — there’s a cer­tain rhythm to it, and you’ll click right in, as long as you don’t hes­i­tate or doubt your­self. “Strong and wrong”: Make that your creed. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Here’s how to get into this group: Lis­ten; pay at­ten­tion; fig­ure out the needs and wants of all in­volved. You won’t have an­swers, and you don’t need to. Your eye con­tact alone is a heal­ing balm. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): The ef­fort to be known — that’s a theme to­day. You know who your friends are, and they’ll make sure you don’t for­get about them. All that you have you’ll put into your per­for­mance tonight. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): Net­work. Ac­quain­tances on the so­cial scene are prime sources of em­ploy­ment and love op­por­tu­ni­ties, if not for your­self then for a close friend. Make a point of chat­ting up ev­ery­one you know.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ au­thor/hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY >> My boyfriend and I are ma­ture adults who en­joy pho­tog­ra­phy. He brings his cam­era when we go to the beach or sport­ing events — even to the store. He’s learn­ing all the time about how to use light cor­rectly and his zoom lens.

When we get back and I down­load the pics from his cam­era, the ma­jor­ity of shots are of women’s chests, be­hinds and pretty faces. He has snapped many of them while they were stand­ing right next to me. (There are very few shots of me — ever.)

When I ask if he wants me to delete the pho­tos, he says no. I don’t un­der­stand why he would keep pic­tures of strangers. He says he’s like any photographer — he likes to re­view his pho­tos. I tell him it hurts my feel­ings to think he en­joys look­ing at other women more than at me. It would be dif­fer­ent if they were beau­ti­ful por­traits, but they’re not. It is painful that I’m not in­cluded. Am I wrong to feel unim­por­tant and ig­nored?

— Out of the pic­ture

DEAR OUT >> You are en­ti­tled to your feel­ings, and they may be jus­ti­fied. Be­cause you iden­tify this man as your boyfriend, I as­sume you have an ex­clu­sive re­la­tion­ship. There will al­ways be women around who are younger and pret­tier. That’s life. Be­cause you can’t con­trol his taste in sub­jects, my ad­vice is to quit down­load­ing his pic­tures for him if they make you un­com­fort­able.

DEAR ABBY >> My fi­ance and I have a lov­ing re­la­tion­ship. He is af­fec­tion­ate — hug­ging, kiss­ing, etc. But he doesn’t have a high li­bido, which I am con­cerned about be­cause he’s only 26.

He has con­fessed to me he’s had re­la­tions with men in the past, and I’m think­ing he may be bi­sex­ual. While that does not con­cern me what­so­ever (af­ter all, it’s one thing to be at­tracted to some­one and an­other thing en­tirely to cheat), I worry that he thinks he couldn’t share this with me, and that it may lead to lies. I am also wor­ried that if I con­front him with this, he may be of­fended or think I think less of him. What should I do? — Lov­ing re­la­tion­ship in


DEAR LOV­ING >> You and your fi­ance are over­due for a frank talk. He has told you that he has had more than one same-sex re­la­tion­ship, so it’s fair to con­sider him to be bi­sex­ual. That he didn’t use that word doesn’t mean he was dis­hon­est. We com­mu­ni­cate with our ac­tions as well as ver­bally.

That you have con­tin­ued your re­la­tion­ship af­ter learn­ing about his sex­ual his­tory should in­di­cate to him that you don’t think less of him. As to the strength of his li­bido, no two in­di­vid­u­als are alike. If he is able to pro­vide you with what you need, I don’t think you need to be con­cerned. If not — as I said be­fore, you have to talk with him about it.

DEAR ABBY >> How do you get a man to help you fi­nan­cially?

— Anony-miss in Bev­erly Hills

DEAR ANONY-MISS >> Tell him you need his help and hope he’s the type who likes res­cu­ing women.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

What teens need to know about sex, drugs, AIDS and get­ting along with peers and par­ents is in “What Ev­ery Teen Should Know.” Send your name and mail­ing ad­dress, plus check or money or­der for $7 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Teen Book­let, P.O. Box 447, Mount Mor­ris, IL 61054-0447. (Ship­ping and han­dling are in­cluded in the price.)

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