Aries (March 21-April 19): You’re solid. You know what’s right for your life and what’s not. You can and will keep the negative forces at a distance, not with anger but with dignity. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Things are not black and white for you — or for anyone, really. That’s why this will be a day in which you will choose not to judge, and not to throw your attention away on negativity. Gemini (May 21-June 21): Money might not be able to buy true love or devotion or anything that’s really important, but money can still solve a lot of problems. You’ll solve problems with your money today. Cancer (June 22-July 22): You will be offered what you wanted and deserved several months ago. You can afford to take time with your response. Also, don’t rush to grant acceptance — but do accept. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): It’s wonderful when they really get you. It’s also not so bad when they don’t. There’s a lot of inner life that is sparked by the flint of that. Your mind starts spinning when it’s mad! Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): All those mild perks — you need to appreciate them. Don’t compare. This is a time to home in on what’s good. Keep your passion alive. Only you can set the limit to your potential. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): You can crush up the tension in a room by just speaking. The words you use are not as important as how you use them. Your use of this talent will further your aims. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): The decision seems big. You could deliberate, make your pros and cons list, call your mother, etc., but that would be pageantry. You already know what to do. You’ve known for a while now. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): This group you need to be a part of now — there’s a certain rhythm to it, and you’ll click right in, as long as you don’t hesitate or doubt yourself. “Strong and wrong”: Make that your creed. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Here’s how to get into this group: Listen; pay attention; figure out the needs and wants of all involved. You won’t have answers, and you don’t need to. Your eye contact alone is a healing balm. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): The effort to be known — that’s a theme today. You know who your friends are, and they’ll make sure you don’t forget about them. All that you have you’ll put into your performance tonight. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): Network. Acquaintances on the social scene are prime sources of employment and love opportunities, if not for yourself then for a close friend. Make a point of chatting up everyone you know.
To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> My boyfriend and I are mature adults who enjoy photography. He brings his camera when we go to the beach or sporting events — even to the store. He’s learning all the time about how to use light correctly and his zoom lens.
When we get back and I download the pics from his camera, the majority of shots are of women’s chests, behinds and pretty faces. He has snapped many of them while they were standing right next to me. (There are very few shots of me — ever.)
When I ask if he wants me to delete the photos, he says no. I don’t understand why he would keep pictures of strangers. He says he’s like any photographer — he likes to review his photos. I tell him it hurts my feelings to think he enjoys looking at other women more than at me. It would be different if they were beautiful portraits, but they’re not. It is painful that I’m not included. Am I wrong to feel unimportant and ignored?
— Out of the picture
DEAR OUT >> You are entitled to your feelings, and they may be justified. Because you identify this man as your boyfriend, I assume you have an exclusive relationship. There will always be women around who are younger and prettier. That’s life. Because you can’t control his taste in subjects, my advice is to quit downloading his pictures for him if they make you uncomfortable.
DEAR ABBY >> My fiance and I have a loving relationship. He is affectionate — hugging, kissing, etc. But he doesn’t have a high libido, which I am concerned about because he’s only 26.
He has confessed to me he’s had relations with men in the past, and I’m thinking he may be bisexual. While that does not concern me whatsoever (after all, it’s one thing to be attracted to someone and another thing entirely to cheat), I worry that he thinks he couldn’t share this with me, and that it may lead to lies. I am also worried that if I confront him with this, he may be offended or think I think less of him. What should I do? — Loving relationship in
DEAR LOVING >> You and your fiance are overdue for a frank talk. He has told you that he has had more than one same-sex relationship, so it’s fair to consider him to be bisexual. That he didn’t use that word doesn’t mean he was dishonest. We communicate with our actions as well as verbally.
That you have continued your relationship after learning about his sexual history should indicate to him that you don’t think less of him. As to the strength of his libido, no two individuals are alike. If he is able to provide you with what you need, I don’t think you need to be concerned. If not — as I said before, you have to talk with him about it.
DEAR ABBY >> How do you get a man to help you financially?
— Anony-miss in Beverly Hills
DEAR ANONY-MISS >> Tell him you need his help and hope he’s the type who likes rescuing women.
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