It doesn’t say that dat­ing some­one of another race is wrong

Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dayna Spence

Dear Chap­lain: Is it wrong in God’s eyes to date some­one who’s another race? I re­ally want to ask this girl out but I haven’t be­cause I’m afraid of how my par­ents will re­act. They’re so old school, re­li­gious and don’t think out­side of the box. Signed, Right or Wrong Race

Dear Right or Wrong Race: Thanks for your ques­tion. Ask­ing a girl out can very in­tim­i­dat­ing and es­pe­cially if you think the per­son won’t live up to your par­ent’s ex­pec­ta­tions. Some re­li­gions do teach that it’s wrong to date a per­son of another race. Many of these re­li­gions mis­in­ter­pret scrip­tures, such as Leviti­cus 19:19, which says, “Keep my de­crees. Do not mate dif­fer­ent kinds of an­i­mals. Do not plant your field with two kinds of seed. Do not wear cloth­ing wo­ven of two kinds of ma­te­rial.” These scrip­tures of­ten re­fer to agri­cul­tural laws and not moral laws. There are scrip­tures, how­ever, that do speak against mar­ry­ing peo­ple who wor­ship other Gods. These scrip­tures re­fer to Chris­tians be­ing closely con­nected (such as in a mar­riage) with peo­ple of dif­fer­ent re­li­gious of spir­i­tual be­liefs, be­cause it’s dif­fi­cult to live in har­mony when you are at­tached to some­one who serves a dif­fer­ent God. Again, this has noth­ing to do with race. In fact, in Leviti­cus it also says to treat the for­eigner in your land like a brother. Nowhere in the Bible does it tell us to dis­as­so­ci­ate our­selves with peo­ple be­cause of their eth­nic­ity, to de­value them, or to treat them badly. In fact, Moses’ brother and sis­ter were re­buked by God for talk­ing neg­a­tively about his Ethiopian wife. And Je­sus who was a Jew, talked to a Sa­mar­i­tan woman, which was for­bid­den in that day be­cause the Jews con­sid­ered them half breeds. Nowhere in scrip­ture will you find dat­ing, mat­ing or mar­ry­ing some­one of another race is wrong, be­cause the truth is, we all come from the same dirt that formed Adam. I strongly sug­gest you to talk to your par­ents about your in­ter­est in this young lady and your fear of dis­ap­point­ing them. You just might gain their re­spect and pos­si­bly their sup­port.

Dear Chap­lain: My co­worker and I were close friends. We used to go to lunch ev­ery­day to­gether and talk at work and even out­side of work. We got into a lit­tle spat about some­thing silly. I got up from the table and walked away and we haven’t spo­ken since, that was months ago. I feel I did the right thing to keep the peace, but why do I feel so bad? Isn’t that what Je­sus would do? Signed, No Peace

Dear No Peace: Thanks for your ques­tion. Hav­ing spats may make you feel un­easy and take you out of your com­fort zone. Ex­it­ing the sit­u­a­tion may have given you tem­po­rary peace, and time to gather your­self, which is a good thing; but, by not go­ing back and iron­ing out your dif­fer­ences may have said to your co worker that you weren’t ex­it­ing the sit­u­a­tion, but rather the re­la­tion­ship. Per­haps you feel bad be­cause those weren’t your in­ten­tions. I don’t know what Je­sus would have done in your case, but I do know that Je­sus wouldn’t have eas­ily been of­fended, but in­stead quick to for­give, as it says in Proverbs 19:11. And I know he in­structs us in his Word not to let mat­ters fes­ter, but to im­me­di­ately go back to those we’ve of­fended and to make amends (Matthew 5:23-24). I en­cour­age you to take the first step in be­ing rec­on­ciled with your co worker, and the next time a spat arises try not to be quick to leave, but rather quick to lis­ten (James 1:19). Some­times peo­ple don’t want to be right, they just want to be heard. Ask the Chap­lain is writ­ten by Rev. Dayna Spence, an or­dained min­is­ter, li­censed evan­ge­list, and chap­lain who’s served as a hos­pi­tal chap­lain and is cur­rently serv­ing as a hospice chap­lain Ch­ester County area. Please email “Ask the Chap­lain” at 4thechap­ or write to, PO Box 1284, West Ch­ester, PA 19380.

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