Man’s new job with an old flame gives his wife a chill

Daily Local News (West Chester, PA) - - YOUR DAILY BREAK - Dear Abby

DEAR ABBY >> My hus­band was re­cently of­fered a new job that car­ries with it a sig­nif­i­cant increase in salary as well as up­ward mo­bil­ity. He was of­fered the job by a woman he used to work with years ago. She will be his new boss.

It was re­cently brought to my at­ten­tion that not only were they co-work­ers, they also used to sleep to­gether. He tells me there’s ab­so­lutely noth­ing there, and that I don’t need to be wor­ried. How­ever, I can’t help but won­der why they have main­tained con­tact for all th­ese years, and why she sought him out to work for her.

She is also mar­ried, and I won­der if her hus­band knows their his­tory, and if he would be OK with his wife’s re­quest to work with a for­mer lover.

Am I over­re­act­ing? Or should peo­ple cut off con­tact with their exes once they are mar­ried? Should I be wor­ried about a phys­i­cal or emo­tional af­fair? I just don’t have a good feel­ing about this. Thank you for your help. — Needs an ob­jec­tive

opin­ion

DEAR NEEDS >> In a sit­u­a­tion like this, much de­pends upon the in­di­vid­u­als in­volved and the cir­cum­stances of the breakup. Not all ro­mances end ac­ri­mo­niously. Some­times they grad­u­ally di­min­ish and the peo­ple in­volved move on.

It would be in­ter­est­ing to know who told you your hus­band and this woman were once lovers. If it was your hus­band, I think you have less to be con­cerned about than if it was some­one “try­ing to be help­ful.” It is pos­si­ble that the woman con­tacted your hus­band be­cause she is fa­mil­iar with his work ethic and his abil­i­ties and thinks he would be the best per­son for the job.

That said, how­ever, there are four peo­ple in­volved in this sit­u­a­tion. And your ques­tion about whether her hus­band is aware of their his­tory is a good one, be­cause he should be.

DEAR ABBY >> I have a sug­ges­tion for your read­ers who take pre­scrip­tion med­i­ca­tion. When they are fin­ished with it, they should peel the la­bel off the bot­tle, stick it to a piece of pa­per and send it through a shred­der.

Th­ese la­bels con­tain a lot of per­sonal information. If they fall into the wrong hands, they could be­come shop­ping lists for drug ad­dicts and our land­fills could be­come their next source. Bet­ter to be safe than sorry, if for no other rea­son than pri­vacy.

— Chet in Ken­tucky

DEAR CHET >>

I agree!

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