Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): You’re becoming more intentional in these last days of the year. You’ll measure the things that matter to you. Time is your greatest resource. A little self-discipline is all that’s needed to work the clock in your favor. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Come from a place of curiosity. You can afford it. Relax and think of a different question you could be asking. If nothing comes to you, escape to new environs and see if that doesn’t inspire a new mindset. Gemini (May 21-June 21): What was a chore to learn is becoming increasingly exciting to know, now that you understand it better. Keep seeking knowledge. You’ll soon meet people who share your enthusiasm for the subject. Cancer (June 22-July 22): You can’t control other people, so you focus on you. This will be positive as long as you realize that there’s really nothing to fix about yourself, just something to accept. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): You’ll have some fun as you take on a challenge with a small team. New people in the group will highlight different characteristics of your loved ones, giving you a new angle to appreciate them from. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Whatever happened before, leave it in the land of before. Future-you is still to be determined. You’re the determiner. You will be what you make of yourself. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Everyone has felt the sting of exclusion and rejection — hard but a kind of rite of passage for humans. If you can soften it for someone you will. Laughing about the past, or holding hands in the present — that’s you now. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Do you ever go on social media and find yourself being quite mean about it? You wouldn’t leave bad comments, but you might think them. There’s something cathartic in the thought process, and as long as you don’t act on it, you’re golden. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): How well should they understand you? This is the question of the day. You have surprises and mysteries inside you. How much do you really want to communicate now? Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Is this person difficult to get to know? You’ll have to work harder to crack the code, that’s all. Only you can determine if it’s really worthwhile, although the challenge in and of itself will probably be enough for you.

Because you are such a fantastic listener you will understand even those who have difficulty communicating. You will find a way to help them and perhaps make an accidental profit, too. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): Your affection toward those you love cannot be masked. Others are secretly envious of the attention you lavish on your nearest and dearest, and today they may make a play for your interest.

To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I am a 70-yearold woman, married for 50 years, and I hate my husband. He wants to go to swinger parties and toss me to other men. I tried it a couple of times for him and hated it.

He is overbearing and rude. We don’t have any friends where we live, so he seeks out new people. He doesn’t listen to my begging not to do this. His computer is full of porn and his thoughts are sinful, although he can’t perform.

Every day I wish he were dead, but I feel guilty for these thoughts. Please tell me what to do. My life is unbearable.

— Past my limit in Orlando

DEAR PAST YOUR LIMIT >> By now it should be apparent to you that you can’t change your husband. The only thing you can change is yourself. If you find the strength to do that, your circumstances will change. Because you say your life is unbearable, stop bearing it. Talk to a lawyer and set yourself free.

DEAR ABBY >> My 33-year-old son has mental problems. He is moving out to live with a guy he has been talking to on the internet and who has met him once.

His father and I are against it, not because of their homosexuality but because we are afraid it’s a dangerous situation. We have learned that the guy was arrested three years ago on three different charges. He says he was cleared, but refuses any background checks or fingerprinting for jobs and/ or government housing.

When we tried to talk to our son and explain the dangers, he became irate and blamed everything on us. He has no driver’s license and has threatened to take off. He has also threatened suicide. We have asked him to consider talking to a psychiatrist, but he refuses. He does see a psychologist every three months, and he’s supposed to be on medication, which he refuses to take. How can we deal with this? His psychologist won’t talk to us unless my son gives the OK.

— Desperate worried mother

DEAR DESPERATE >> Because your son is an adult, unless he is a danger to himself or others, there is nothing you can do to prevent him from leaving. However, you CAN write his psychologist a letter letting him/her know what is going on and address your concerns. There is a chance your son might pay more attention to what his therapist says than to you.

An organization that may be of help to you is The National Alliance on Mental Illness, accessible at nami.org. It may be able to provide you with the guidance and emotional support you need.

DEAR ABBY >> I’m 16, and I have a crush on a guy who is 23. We met in the gym he works at. He’s very shy and he didn’t make the first move, but now we flirt a lot. I don’t know what to think because we met at his work, and he’s so much older than I am. What do you think about the situation? If he kisses me, what should I think? If he doesn’t make a move, what should I do?

— Confused in Connecticut

DEAR CONFUSED >> My advice is to forget about it. If he kisses you, consider the consequences if your parents found out what’s been going on. It could cost this man his job. He may be very nice, but he is so much older and more experienced than you are that there could be criminal penalties and possibly jail time for him if he’s foolish enough to pursue you.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.