Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): The better your relationship is with another or with yourself, the less you require from your environment. An ordinary meal, a walk, a shopping trip — all opportunities for amazing romance and/or rapturous enjoyment of life. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Today feels like a jelly doughnut. The best stuff is in the center. You’re right! To find a thing’s center, bite into it. If it can’t be bitten, dig. If it can’t be dug, drill. Gemini (May 21-June 21): You’ve a particular set of curiosities that speak to your intelligence. What you’re after might not be popular with everyone. If no one is lining up to see it, it’s not any less interesting. Cancer (June 22-July 22): Finding the one you like best takes faith and devotion to a process. It’s a lot harder than going with the one who got there first. And what if the first one turns out to be the best one after all? You’ll never know unless you shop around. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Like the pop artist Sia, you feel you have something to say today, but you don’t necessarily want to be recognized for saying it. In fact, you’d rather be left alone to do your thing. Therefore, you may use someone else as your mouthpiece. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Lose something? Chances are that it’s very close to you; you’re just not seeing it. What you need to do is clean up. To find what you can’t see, strip away what you can. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): It’s very easy to be the most charismatic person in the room these days. All you have to do is engage the world instead of looking at your cellphone. If it’s worth doing, it’s worth your full attention. Socializing is definitely worth doing. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Eating something new buoys the spirit more than most new things, especially if that fresh flavor is exceptionally pleasing. Cook for your loved ones. Make memories. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): The impact of environment on human behavior cannot be underestimated. Test the theory by changing yours up significantly. See if that doesn’t change the way people behave in your home, particularly loved ones. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Everyone knows you’re not supposed to stare into the sun and nor should you look directly at the super-watt lightbulb. Also, there’s an art to looking on the bright side. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): It will feel as though your actions are questions instead of answers. If you knew it all, the day would be boring. You’re willing to accept the uneasiness that comes with exploration. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): There are a lot of boxes you haven’t checked. Good news: You don’t have to, not now, not ever. You might later. Be OK with that. You’re a kind person, and you give your all. That’s enough for today.

To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I have been divorced for five years, yet I can’t seem to make headway. I constantly obsess about my failed marriage and the fact that my ex has moved on and remarried. I plot every day how to make his life miserable, which gives me some relief. I have been to counseling, but can’t seem to move forward. I don’t want to be stuck in this rut forever. Please help me. — Can’t get

over it in Pennsylvania

DEAR CAN’T >> The quickest way out of the rut would be to find another licensed therapist and get more counseling. Clearly, the first one didn’t help you.

Plotting to make your ex’s life miserable is not the answer. Acquiring the tools to make your own life better is the healthy, constructive way to go. And while you’re at it, keep busy with activities you enjoy so you’ll have less time to fixate on your situation.

DEAR ABBY >> I am married with two small children. Last year, my job of 18 years was outsourced overseas. Since then I have had an opportunity to go back to school and further my education. It sounds great, and I know a lot of people would jump at the chance, but I’m miserable. I hate going back to school.

My husband, “Clay,” is insisting that I finish so I can get a high-paying job. I’d love to stay home and care for our kids, one of whom has high-functioning autism. Clay has never been a good provider. Paying the bills has always been up to me. Everyone says I should stick it out and graduate, but I feel like I’m neglecting our children and I’m grumpy all the time. I feel like a horrible mom.

There is no way to lighten the class load. What should I do? Quit and seek a job at which I can work a normal day and then go home and care for my kids? Or tough it out and be miserable for another year? — Student stuck in North

Carolina

DEAR STUDENT >> To stay at home and care for your children would take the cooperation of your under-providing husband, and he’s unwilling to do that. I don’t think you have much choice other than to continue your studies and return to helping support your family financially — including him.

DEAR ABBY >> I’m in my mid-20s and haven’t lived in my mother’s home in more than four years. However, mail still occasionally comes for me at her address. Whenever it happens, my mother opens it.

Typically, she goes through the song and dance of telling me I’ve received mail, asking if I want her to open it (no, thank you), then saying she’ll set it aside. Yet, by the time it reaches me, it has been opened.

When I try to talk to her about it, she claims that because she lives alone she’s not in the habit of looking at the name on the front of the envelopes. If this had happened only once or twice, I’d believe it was an honest mistake. But it is every envelope, every time. What can I do? I don’t think this is something I should have to grin and bear.

— Frustrated Buffalo girl

DEAR FRUSTRATED >> Mail is considered to be private property. When another party breaches that privacy, that person may be guilty of mail tampering, which is a crime. You should have explained that fact to your mother when you first realized that what she was doing wasn’t an accident.

Because this annoys you so much that you have written to me about it, and if you haven’t already done so, register your change of address with the post office so your mail can be delivered properly, and contact those who may not know that you have moved, so this won’t keep happening.