Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): A project seems to be taking over your life in many ways, including financial ones. Don’t emphasize how expensive it is; rather, focus on the joy, education and relationships it brings. Taurus (April 20-May 20): If you aren’t busy working on your own goals today, you’re working on someone else’s. Whose? And how did this person get so lucky as to entice you to this line? It’s an excellent time to review and rework the plan. Gemini (May 21-June 21): Stick to the one aim, the one person, the one ideal you want to hold up. Multitasking pretty much ensures malcontent. Try and do two things; none get done. Cancer (June 22-July 22): You’ll give yourself the good advice like you usually do, but no guarantees that you’re going to follow it. And who is the “you” who’s giving it anyway? Is this person taking into consideration all (the humor, fun, bonding) you need? Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Some call it moral courage, some call it optimism, and you don’t call it anything, because this is how you are. You’re the one moving forward, seeing the possibilities, giving that big smile and feeling groovy today. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): When you love something there are two modes you often take. You either make it sacred, and stash it on high in an untouchable place, or you play with it every which way until it’s worn-in like only you could do it. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Your happiness is not dependent on approval, excitement or reward. You’re curious. You find it easy to like people. These qualities are what drive you to the interesting places. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Every time you think of a memory, you corrupt it. It’s not just you; these are the wonderful adaptations of the human brain. This is why history is more of an art than a science — something to keep in mind now. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): To change yourself is to change the world. Most people don’t think of it, though. It’s not the most popular quest. Everyone is trying to make a mark outwardly. The inward changers — they’re onto something. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Storms on Jupiter make earthly hurricanes look infantile. But that’s just how it is around here. Nothing on earth can rage indefinitely. When passion dies down, as is its natural course, acceptance is grace. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Since you’re going to travel the same roads time and again, why not sprinkle some wildflower seeds as you go, so you’ll have pretty changes to watch along the way? Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You wish time would change things for you, but it’s becoming clear that you’re going to have to do it yourself. A little more grit, a little more muscle, some negotiations, a sprinkle of charm — you’re almost there.

To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I have known “Kathy” for 13 years. Her parents moved up the street from us when we were both 2. I don’t remember much when we were younger, but everyone says we had some good times. We are now 15 and in our first year of high school. My problem is, Kathy has changed. She started going to the same school I did in eighth grade after having some problems with bullying. The new school didn’t help much. She started hanging out with people who weren’t good influences, and her attitude started changing.

Then we started high school, and now she acts like she’s above me. I’m a polite, quiet and religious person. Kathy swears a lot and doesn’t treat me like a friend anymore. Our families are close, and I feel stuck. If our situations were different, I would have never ended up being friends with her. What should I do?

— Some good times

DEAR SOME GOOD TIMES >> Tell your parents how you feel about Kathy and why. Friendships don’t always last forever. As time goes by, sometimes people grow apart. If Kathy is unkind to you, you shouldn’t be forced to be around her. Because your parents and hers are close, they can socialize as adults, with no offspring involved.

DEAR ABBY >> My husband lacks sympathy. When people die, he has the attitude of, “Oh well, people die.” I thought he would change once someone close to him died, but his father died a few months ago, and although he shed some tears, he refused to eulogize him at the funeral and is back to his old attitude. His mother is the same way.

Recently, my grown son phoned me in the middle of the night to let me know that his best friend’s dad had died. He was very upset and needed to talk. My husband was annoyed that he woke us about someone we didn’t even know, and went on to say how ridiculous it was that my son was so upset. I told him that, as a mom, I will talk my son through any problem, whether he agrees with it or not. He just grumbled and went back to sleep.

This is still bothering me. I wonder how my husband will act toward my children if I die first. I worry that he will say “suck it up and stop crying” when they need him the most. I don’t think this is worth ending a 30-year marriage over, but it makes me angry that he is so unsympathetic. Any ideas on how I should handle this?

— Full of feeling in Arizona

DEAR FULL >> Yes. Outlive him.

DEAR ABBY >> I have been a longtime reader and recently I have been reading the archives and find it funny that most requests for advice are relevant even in this day and age. My question is, now that we have caller ID and cellphones, do you still say “hello” when you answer a call? The greeting seems false since you know exactly who is calling you. It could be because I am in my 40s and didn’t grow up with cellphones.

— Aimee in San Antonio

DEAR AIMEE >> The customary greeting is still to say hello. However, because we now have caller ID, which gives us the advantage of knowing who the caller is, many people answer their phones by addressing the person by name (i.e., “Hello, Aimee!”).

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.