Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): The nature of love cannot be defined in one way that suits every person. Due to its intangible and mysterious qualities, it is impossible to love accurately. Strive instead to love fully. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Love cannot be taught on a chalkboard or in a video series. Sure, one can pick up a few tips here and there, but the only true teacher is experience, as filtered through the heart. Gemini (May 21-June 21): It’s not (SET ITAL) that (END ITAL) you love but (SET ITAL) how (END ITAL) you love that matters today. Your living example will kindle warmth and joy as well as inspire others to show love in action. Cancer (June 22-July 22): It’s easy to pour water from a pitcher to a jar. Filling a jar from an open fire hydrant is hard. Quantity and force come with containment challenges, just as your more passionate feelings do. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Your sincere curiosity and pure desire to focus on others has you utterly unselfconscious, thereby confident — and, it follows, completely irresistible (though oblivious to the fact). Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): When you love someone, you want that person to have every good opportunity you’ve ever had and more. That’s why you’ll show affection by opening doors for another, literally and figuratively. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): You may not be entirely sure what you’re getting into, but there’s no question that you’re surely getting into it. As author and illustrator Lynda Barry observed, “Love is an exploding cigar we willingly smoke.” Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): The heart’s logic is multidimensional math, impossible to understand from but one plane of existence. It can’t be checked with a calculator, but don’t worry; if you feel that it adds up, it does. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Laughter is a form of love you revel in now. It signals agreement. It signals an understanding of another person’s intelligence that goes deeper than usual. Your favorite people are the ones you laugh with. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Taking love slowly isn’t just for the very young and the very old. It’s also for those who care to soak in every detail, savor moments and weave a magical experience. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): There’s much you could do independently (with great ease) that you will instead choose to do with another (with great challenge) because it’s an interesting and fun bonding experience. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): For you, love is not about perfect agreement, or even occasional agreement. The best relationships won’t duplicate your qualities, opinions and skills so much as complement them.

To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators. com/author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I am 26 years old, and my mother still walks around naked in front of me with no warning. I’ve told her several times that it makes me uncomfortable, but she seems not to take me seriously. In her culture (she’s not from the U.S.), walking around naked is no problem. But I’m tired of seeing her breasts unexpectedly.

I’m all about positive body image, but it’s strange to me to see a 62-year-old woman’s breasts. Am I the one who has an issue? I’m open to any advice or recommendations. — ‘Nudie’s’ Daughter in

Houston

DEAR DAUGHTER >> It appears you are, indeed, the one who has the issue. If you’re seeing your mother walk around in a state of undress, I’m guessing that, although you are an adult, you are still living under her roof. In her house, she has the privilege of making the rules, not you. If she is comfortable walking around au naturel, you will either have to accept it or move out. The choice is yours.

DEAR ABBY >> A while ago I noticed that my fiance had been hiding empty cans of beer from me. After I go to sleep (he is a night owl and I usually end up going to sleep first), he goes to the store and buys a can or two of beer. But instead of throwing the empty cans out, he hides them. When I accidentally discovered his hiding place, I told him he didn’t have to hide them from me. Now, every once in a while I check the same spot, and I have noticed that he has been hiding them again.

A beer or two is OK with me, Abby, considering the stresses he deals with at work. What worries me is that he feels the need to hide the cans from me after I told him he doesn’t have to. Does this mean he has a bigger problem that needs to be addressed? Please help!

— Unsure in Virginia

DEAR UNSURE >> Yes, he does. Your fiance apparently feels guilty about his nightly beer drinking, which is why he hides the evidence. The two of you need to have a serious conversation about it, preferably BEFORE the wedding.

DEAR ABBY >> There is a reaction that sometimes happens when my daughter and I meet someone new that really frosts me. When someone says, “You look like sisters,” I want to say, “Baloney!” In the first place, we do NOT look like sisters — our 22-year difference is very obvious. I know the speakers think they are flattering me, but what they are really doing is making my daughter think she looks older. Please ask your readers to stop and think before making such fake-flattery comparisons.

— Baloney in Colorado

DEAR BALONEY >> I can ask my readers to refrain from saying it, but please explain to your daughter that the compliment is meant for you, indicating that you look young for your age — not that she looks old for hers. DEAR READERS >> I deeply appreciate the relationship I have with you. You make my life a joy. Please allow me to wish you all a Happy Valentine’s Day. — Love, Abby