Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): You want to go on adventures, but you also realize that each adventure has its cost. There’s a dollar amount and an energetic amount to be settled. Today’s adventure will be worth the price of admission. Taurus (April 20-May 20): The depth of a loss is measured by how long it takes you to get over it. This is a highly personal equation. What one person shrugs off another carries around for years. You can expect everyone’s healing pace to be different. Gemini (May 21-June 21): Sound of mind, sound of body — what more could you ask for? Sure, you can think of a few other things you might like to request. But is that the right thing to do? Give, give, and give more. The sun is in your sector, and generosity is your nature. Cancer (June 22-July 22): To flatter isn’t always to put yourself in a lower position. After all, it takes one to know one. And a little more on the subject: Doing the opposite is also a form of imitation. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): The tone of a thing will be much more important than what the thing does or is. The representation is what will matter. This isn’t right; it’s just what’s happening. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): When you see something that’s inconsistent with your belief system, by your definition it’s absurd. Yet you might find yourself doing that very thing — which is equally absurd. And there’s really nothing wrong with either. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Progress is a hard thing to nail down, because who knows which nuisance is better than the last? You’ll figure it out. Some praise will come to you on the matter, not that it will mean much, since you’ve an agenda beyond all that. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): You do not strive to be generous in order to satisfy a social quota. You give what you feel like giving. That’s honest. The special charisma that swirls around you today has a lot to do with that honesty. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Neglect is an underused concept. Use it now. Problems fade from neglect. Ignore them and they go away. Maybe they were never problems to begin with, merely situations, or even non-issues. Buh-bye. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): There’s something a little weird afoot. You think, “I don’t have time for this!” But then “this” is all you’re doing. Well, that means “this” is important to your development as a person. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Transitions are precarious parts of life, represented in big happenings and also in the day to day. Be tender to those in the middle stages, as they are particularly vulnerable. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): The call of duty — some dread it. But to you, this is an entry point. You like to go beyond the call of duty, in fact. Going beyond the call is your aim in many regards these days.

To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY >> I’m a pansexual female and open about it with my friend and also my brother. The rest of my family is super Christian. I tried to bring up the “gay” word, but they’re all against it and have strong opinions about the subject.

I just want to feel accepted for who I am, and not keep anything from them. I need your opinion on when I should tell them — or should I just not tell them at all? Your help would be appreciated. — Pansexual in

the USA

DEAR PANSEXUAL >> According to Wikipedia, the definition of pansexuality is “the sexual, romantic or emotional attraction toward people regardless of their sex or gender identity.” While it may be empowering for you to disclose this information, it should be clear to you that your family — with the exception of your brother — is not open to hearing it. Respect that.

However, you are free to live your life, so live it and be happy. You do not need their approval and you shouldn’t let their approval — or lack thereof — affect how you live.

DEAR ABBY >> My husband and I own a coloring business. We color unicorns and rainbows and other pictures. They are beautiful and sell well.

Recently, my mother-in-law started begging us to let her join our team. Abby, I’m sure she would do fine and that she could color within the lines, but we do not need any help.

My husband suggested hiring her to run errands — to buy crayons and coloring books, perhaps — but I doubt she would be satisfied with that. I love our company as it is now. What do you think we should do? — Coloring for you

DEAR C.F.Y. >> Because you love your company “as it is now,” do not hire your mother-in-law to fill a job that doesn’t need filling. To do so would be a recipe for disaster, because getting rid of her would cause lasting hard feelings. Instead, you and your husband should explain that “the company” doesn’t need another colorist right now, and see if you can help her find a parttime job elsewhere if she needs money or has time to fill.

DEAR ABBY >> We recently lost a beloved family member. My question is, how long do I wait before we deactivate his email and Facebook accounts? Some people say immediately, or wait a year. Others have said to leave them active indefinitely.

Do I need to send a message to his Facebook friends in advance? Also, would it be offensive or tacky if I downloaded pictures from his Facebook account and cellphone before we deactivate everything? There are some pictures of my nieces and nephews I would like to keep. — How long do i wait?

DEAR HOW LONG >> There are no hard and fast rules covering a situation like this. Some people deactivate the accounts immediately. Others leave them live indefinitely. However, you might wish to post a comment to the effect that, “For those friends who might not know, our beloved ‘Joe’ passed away on (date of death).”

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