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Aries (March 21-April 19): Chal­lenge your­self to leave a sit­u­a­tion be­fore you re­spond to it. Even if you’re only walk­ing away for five min­utes, that’s enough time to come up with a bet­ter com­mu­ni­ca­tion than you’d have re­flex­ively. Tau­rus (April 20-May 20): There are in­ter­est­ing peo­ple out there you’d like to meet and equally in­ter­est­ing peo­ple who want to meet you. Your so­cial ef­forts will pay off rather quickly now, so don’t miss the chance to min­gle. Gem­ini (May 21-June 21): The No. 1 rule of the day: Don’t ag­o­nize. You’re creative, and to make the most of this you’ll need to make many de­ci­sions and ex­e­cute them fast. Take the lessons and move on — no re­grets! Can­cer (June 22-July 22): Like a real pro, you are brave with­out be­ing reck­less, fo­cused but not obliv­i­ous to the com­pe­ti­tion. This at­ti­tude will carry you into an ex­clu­sive sit­u­a­tion where you’ll meet wor­thy op­po­nents. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Maybe it won’t do any good to ex­plain your­self. Those who would un­der­stand don’t need the ex­pla­na­tion and those who don’t only get more con­fused the more you talk. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): For those wait­ing for the one day when it will all just click in, you know bet­ter. There’s no great light switch to turn on — not one gi­gan­tic click, but a ticker tape of small un­der­stand­ings you come to with daily aware­ness. Li­bra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): Those who are overly con­cerned with stat­ing their per­sonal truths are of­ten too melo­dra­matic for you to take se­ri­ously. Emo­tion­ally ma­ture peo­ple put kind­ness, com­pas­sion and co­op­er­a­tion first. Scor­pio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): You can’t tell what’s going to make other peo­ple happy. You can’t even tell what’s going to make you happy. So just do your best. When things don’t land quite right, shrug it off. And when they do, cel­e­brate. Sagit­tar­ius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): The lan­guage of souls is hard for you to miss these days. As you lis­ten past what peo­ple say out of a sense of so­cial ap­pro­pri­ate­ness, good man­ners or obli­ga­tion, you hear the soul’s cry. Capri­corn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): It’s not just the sup­port­ers around you who are aware of your po­ten­tial. Those who knock your con­fi­dence on pur­pose are also aware. You can take it as a com­pli­ment that they see you as com­pe­ti­tion. Aquar­ius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): It’s true that peo­ple have stum­bled upon trea­sures like gold, but as for most of the bet­ter things in life, they can­not be found; they have to be as­sem­bled. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): To­day, while going about normal business, you’ll of­ten be do­ing some­thing very dif­fer­ent in your head. You’ve a rich in­ner life. Your pri­vate world is only for you — though you may share glimpses with a trusted loved one.

To write to Hol­i­day Mathis, visit www.cre­ators. com/au­thor/hol­i­day-mathis and click “Con­tact.” DEAR ABBY » I’m a 55-yearold guy stranded in a tough marriage sit­u­a­tion. My wife has had a se­ri­ous fallingout with her fa­ther. After his wife of more than 50 years passed away, he im­me­di­ately took up with an old flame and dumped his fam­ily in fa­vor of his new lady’s fam­ily.

My wife now treats me like garbage. Ap­par­ently, “all men are dogs,” and if she passes away, I “ob­vi­ously al­ready have a girl lined up to take her place,” and, oh yeah, I plan to aban­don my chil­dren in fa­vor of the new wo­man’s fam­ily. I’m be­ing painted with a very broad brush, and it is de­stroy­ing our re­la­tion­ship.

My wife is an­gry and bit­ter all the time, and I feel aban­doned. I love her dearly and don’t know what to do next, al­though I am think­ing of punch­ing out her fa­ther. Any thoughts are ap­pre­ci­ated.

— Stranded in Cal­i­for­nia

DEAR STRANDED » Your wife is now an “or­phan.” She’s hurt, an­gry, and mis­di­rect­ing her anger at her fa­ther onto you. Of course it is un­fair to you. She needs coun­sel­ing NOW, be­fore she com­pounds her pain by de­stroy­ing her marriage to you. Be smart and in­sist upon it.

DEAR ABBY » I’m a fifth­grader, and I’d like to know some­thing important to girls my age. I want to know how to get a guy to be my boyfriend and the steps to get­ting him. It’s hard for me to get a boyfriend.

I know what you’re going to say — I’m too young for boys. But if I am, I would like this in­for­ma­tion for fu­ture ref­er­ence. I have tried other things. Nothing worked, and ba­si­cally, you’re my last hope. — Plan­ning ahead in Bay

City, Texas

DEAR PLAN­NING AHEAD » OK, let’s re­view the ba­sics. Are you neat and clean in your ap­pear­ance? Are you fun to be around and liked by your class­mates of both gen­ders? Do you smile and say hello and show an interest?

Ba­si­cally, the qual­i­ties that at­tract other girls are the same ones that will make boys pay at­ten­tion. But there’s an important point to keep in mind, and it’s that while you may be de­vel­op­ing an interest in boys, many of them may not be ma­ture enough to have devel­oped an interest in girls yet, so be pa­tient. Fo­cus on your stud­ies, be­come in­volved in ac­tiv­i­ties you en­joy, and things will hap­pen nat­u­rally.

DEAR ABBY » Re­cently, a waiter spilled the din­ner he was car­ry­ing for an­other diner all over my coat. This is not the first time some­thing like this has hap­pened to me or some­one I was din­ing with. What is the proper thing for a res­tau­rant to do in a sit­u­a­tion like this? Offer me a free meal to cover the cost of get­ting my coat drycleaned?

— An­noyed in Australia

DEAR AN­NOYED » The very least you should re­ceive is an apol­ogy. If the res­tau­rant is Class A, the man­ager should come to your table, apol­o­gize and in­struct you to send or bring the bill for dry clean­ing your gar­ment to him or her so the es­tab­lish­ment can pay for it. Of­fer­ing to treat you to dessert would also be good public re­la­tions, but ex­pect­ing to be treated to din­ner is ex­ces­sive.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069.

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