Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): You’re a person who’s not afraid of being wrong because you really want to know what’s right, and so you’ll meet even your own perception with some measure of doubt. This takes a secure person. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Familiar emotions, even negative ones, get comfortable. To feel a certain way might be nothing more than a habit. The more times you conjure up a feeling, the easier it will be to do so. Gemini (May 21-June 21): You may find yourself replaying a drama over and over, and it’s certainly getting old. But don’t worry: The addition of even one new friend is enough to shake up the whole dynamic. Cancer (June 22-July 22): The miners weren’t the only ones to get rich in the gold rush. Those in the business of selling shovels did mighty fine as well. There’s some kind of shovel-equivalent in your realm. Do you know what it is yet? Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): It’s easier to be yourself when you’re comfortable. Getting comfortable is the tricky part, especially in situations and around people very foreign to you. Settling in will take time and repeated exposure. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): If you knew you were going to get criticized for it, would you still do it? Better question: What if you knew that no matter what choice you made, it would get criticized? What would you do then? Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): If you try too hard to forget something you’ll remember it well, and if you try too hard to remember something you’ll forget it. The answer is to write things down. Somehow this will magically help with both remembering and forgetting. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Anticipate boredom, and decide that you’re going to do something about it beyond your phone. For instance, paying attention to something different in the scene will open the way to new insights. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): When others behave badly, it makes you want to do better. The misbehavior of others will cause you to check yourself to make sure you are not committing a similar offense. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Your originality will shine through today. You’ll be in the same situation as the others and take something totally different from it. For this reason, they need you and you need them. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Occasionally, the social aspect of your work can go against your mood. But once you adjust and get into the flow, your mood will change for the better. There’s a prize at the end of the interaction. This one is not to be missed. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You’ll be drawn to neutral places and underwhelming experiences, because environments that lack excitement encourage imagination. In the quiet, you’ll solve a problem.

To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY » My ex-husband and I have been divorced for three years and share custody of our 10-year-old daughter, who lives with me full time. Her father lives out of state and sees her during the summer months. Last year my daughter had an incident (an “I’ll show you mine, you show me yours” kind of thing) with a friend at school, and my ex and I decided they should no longer hang out after school alone anymore. A year has gone by, and because they’re in the same social circle at school, my ex is refusing to allow her to go to any events this friend attends (birthdays, sleepovers), even though there is always adult supervision.

It makes me sad to see her miss out, and I understand that the incident is normal for kids that age. What can I do? Since she does not live with him, can I overrule? — I’ll show you mine

DEAR I’LL SHOW YOU MINE » I’m sorry your ex-husband doesn’t understand that sexual curiosity in children is normal, because it appears he has overreacted. You cannot dictate the rules in his household. However, while your daughter is living with you during the winter months, he cannot overrule your parenting decisions either.

DEAR ABBY » I am a 43-yearold woman who is trying to win back my high school sweetheart. He contacted me through Facebook seven years ago, and we’ve been talking off and on ever since.

I have never gotten over him, but he has had two bad past relationships and says he isn’t ready for another one at this time. What can I do to let him know I haven’t gotten over him since high school and that I’d love to try again?

Our relationship ended because my parents thought I was too young to have a boyfriend. I was 15 and he was 17. He says he would love to try again “one day” — just not now. What are some things I could do to let him know, “Hey, I’m still here, and I want a second chance” without scaring him away? — High school sweetheart in

Florida

DEAR SWEETHEART » He KNOWS you are “still here” and want a second chance. Because he still isn’t ready to give a romance with you another try, face it — the status quo could last indefinitely. You have devoted seven precious years to trying to sway him. It’s time for you to move on. How he reacts as you begin to disengage will let you know if you have made the right decision.

DEAR ABBY » Since the last presidential election our oldest son has stopped communicating with us. He would text us, but his texts were so disrespectful and hurtful we had to block him from our phones. He’s a grown man and we love him. What should we do?

— Disappointed parents

DEAR PARENTS » The last presidential election has proved to be so divisive that it has ended friendships and caused rifts in some families. Blocking your son from your phones was a mistake. It would have been better to have just told him you would prefer not to discuss politics via text messages.

Until both sides can start listening respectfully to each other, healing and understanding will not happen. Unblock your phone and let your son know that he hurt your feelings, which is why you did it.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.