Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): All the glory will go to the one who got into the mess of it and started racking up the mishaps, lessons and successes. So don’t worry about whether or not it’s too late. This is as good a start time as any. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Rumors travel in exciting ways. Usually they fly. Sometimes they leak. Rumors never plod along. What plods along isn’t juicy enough to be considered a rumor, nor will it qualify as news. Consider this in your PR strategy. Gemini (May 21-June 21): You would rather come up with a successful plan than have one presented to you. You would rather solve a problem then memorize the solutions of others. It’s because learning is a process, not an answer. Cancer (June 22-July 22): You won’t really find the time to work on the things you want to work on, but if you make the time — carve it out, declare it, keep it sacred — then you’ll have just as much as you willfully dedicated to the pursuit. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): Remember the times when your thoughts, plus time and effort, resulted in altered reality, materialization and transformation? Today those thoughts will be harder to rein in, but you must, because thoughts become things. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Don’t worry about how to do it. You’re smart. The “how” won’t be a problem once you get the truly important questions answered, the most relevant one being “Why?” Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): The easy road will be uneventful and boring, so choose something with more texture and pitch to it, though not so challenging as to cause you to become stuck or disheartened. Some difficulties are more desirable than others. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Inventing yourself is much easier than reinventing yourself. Once people have an idea about you, it’s difficult to overwrite that. But new people will accept what you show them, and you may as well have a little fun with this. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Even though you come into the world with a certain framework, much of your story is a co-creation between you and the outside world. Never forget your ultimate free will. This is a day to exercise it. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): A relationship will get on your nerves if you let it. No one is trying to irritate the other, but there are sticking points — friction that comes up again and again until someone’s resistance is rubbed away. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Gossip is dangerous. Steer clear of it. Make your mind up about people based on what you experience, not what you hear. Truly, people can poison your judgment with their opinions. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): In your current ambitious mood you believe that if it’s not getting better, it’s getting worse. That’s why yours is a path of constant improvement and study, which will be easily accommodated with the free resources you find today.

To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/author/ holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY » A year ago, my husband confessed that he was having an affair at work. Before it started, he tried setting “Velma” up with his twin brother, but she said she wasn’t interested. Their affair lasted for months, until the guilt “ate him up.” When he told me, I was devastated.

We agreed to get counseling and work on our marriage. Well, it turns out Velma was also seeing his brother while she was with my husband. Oh! And she had a baby, and we’re not sure who the father is.

My brother-in-law claims he loves Velma and she loves him. I have been asked if I am willing to sit with her, my husband and brother-in-law to “clear the air.” I don’t think I can do it. Although I want my brother-inlaw to be happy, at the same time, I don’t want to ever be near this woman. Please help.

— Losing myself

DEAR LOSING YOURSELF » Has your brother-in-law MARRIED Velma? If not, I see no reason why you should be forced to clear anything with her. If the two of them have tied the knot, then I can see a benefit for you in having a discussion. Of course, that discussion should be in the office of a professional mediator, and you should first make a list of all the questions you would like her to answer.

At the top of the list would be why she was sleeping with your husband and his brother at the same time. Close to that one would be why she thinks you would ever want to have a relationship with her. Take it from there and add questions of your own.

DEAR ABBY » I am a Korean lady whose husband spends a lot of time on Facebook. He says it’s to promote his books. (He loves to write.) I think he does it to get recognition from his Facebook “friends.”

Well, that may be great for him. But my problem with him — and Facebook — is that sometimes he provides too much information about ME. None of it is positive.

We had a fight two weeks ago, and the next thing I knew, I was reading about it on Facebook, all from his point of view. Before that, he complained he only got a bowl of cereal for breakfast when he would have liked a hot meal instead. Excuse me, but what’s stopping him from making one for himself when I have to drop off the kids at school and go to work?

I feel hurt after reading what he’s posting and ashamed for not being a “good enough” spouse. Am I overly sensitive or should I confront him about this? I could use some wise advice.

— Embarrassed in Korea

DEAR EMBARRASSED » By all means talk to your husband about what he’s been doing, because if he has complaints, they should be directed to you rather than his Facebook buddies. If you feel compelled to defend yourself, you can always reply to his posts to set the record straight. If he continues to publicly discuss what should be a private matter, you might be less embarrassed if you read his posts less often or unfriend him altogether.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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