Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): In the cry of one broken heart is the song of all the broken hearts through history. It’s why you can’t listen without echoing the mournful resonance inside you. At least there’s a comfort and healing in this. Taurus (April 20-May 20): If you don’t easily fall asleep, there are good reasons; perhaps too much is on your mind, or an exciting possibility has you reeling. Or could you be awake in someone else’s dream? Embrace the mystical: It’s good for imagination. Gemini (May 21-June 21): While Frank Sinatra may have had a hit doing it “My Way,” for most people the real adventure begins when “My Way” doesn’t pan out and we must learn to do it “A Way” (or in today’s case, any possible way that will work, really). Cancer (June 22-July 22): There’s something coming your way — an important sale or a bonus. The rewards will have a direct correlation to the work you put in and the stellar attitude in your approach. It’s nice when things happen this cleanly. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): You’re usually pretty intuitive about what others might need, but what this intuition is probably telling you now is to just ask. You’ll be quite surprised by what you hear. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Dreams are good; plans are better. A little of both will serve you best. Because if you only plan, it won’t be interesting enough, and if you only dream, it won’t be practical enough. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): You’ll be on the hunt for a new experience. So while the cost matters, and the risk is a factor to consider as well, the enticement of the unfamiliar teamed with your curiosity will trump your trepidation. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): You care about something that isn’t conventional. Getting into it more might lead you slightly and temporarily away from certain people who will never really get it, but it will bond you with people who share your interest. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): The moment when it happens is not the next one; it’s always this one... if for no other reason than the fact that you can’t live or do anything in the next one. Keep reminding yourself to stay alert to what’s happening now. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Since you are the beholder, you get to say what’s beautiful. Try to do this away from the influence of others to get a true read. Otherwise you’ll be unduly swayed. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): It’s easy to say no when you have already said yes to something else. Since your schedule fills up on a first-come, firstserved basis, you’ll do well to be the first one to fill it up with what you really want your life to be about. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): According to Grabel’s Law, two is not equal to three, not even for large values of two. In a related story, getting something different from what you want (even if you get a lot of it) is still not getting what you want.

To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY » I have been married for 18 years and have two wonderful kids, ages 14 and 12. Ten months ago, my husband said to me, “I told you I would divorce you if you ever got fat.” I was shocked! Yes, I have gained some weight over the years, but at 5 feet 5 inches tall and 150 pounds, I was not exactly obese.

I was frightened by what he said, so I took off 25 pounds. He didn’t appear to notice, so I asked him, “Now what do you think?” He said, “You have no muscle tone”!

Abby, nothing I do is good enough. I work part-time and take care of our kids and the house. I go out of my way to cook and bake interesting things for them. Any appreciation? His praise is, “Not bad.” Abby, what should I do?

— Biggest loser in New York

DEAR “LOSER” » Before I answer your question, I should point out that the way some abusers maintain control is by withholding approval, love, money, etc.

According to the National Institutes of Health, a woman who is 5 feet 5 inches tall should weigh between 114 and 144 pounds to be considered a normal weight. For your husband to threaten you with divorce if you didn’t lose weight was brutal. Nothing you do is good enough because keeping you insecure and always trying to gain his approval is how he maintains the upper hand in your marriage. Losing weight is not easy. You should have been praised for your success.

Since you asked what to do, I’ll tell you: Take him at his word. Your husband may have said your muscle tone is flabby, but from where I sit, what’s sagging is your self-esteem. Go to the gym. Get into a training program. Improve that muscle tone, and along with it your image of yourself. Then, once you have achieved your goal and feel better about yourself, decide whether you want to remain married to a man who has such poor “muscle tone” between the ears.

DEAR ABBY » I am a 63-yearold widow. I have not been with a man since my husband died 10 years ago. I am now dating a 31-year-old man. I am deeply in love with him. He says he’s in love with me, too, but his family says he doesn’t know what love is. He was previously in a four-year relationship with someone his own age.

Am I crazy for dating a man who is 31? He’s everything I have always wanted, and what I would consider the perfect man for me. He claims his only problem with dating me is that I will probably pass away in 20 years, and he will be alone and devastated. My concern is I feel I am preventing him from future children and a possible wife his own age. He says he doesn’t want kids, but I’m not so sure. Please tell me what to do. I have never been in this situation before. — Help, please, in

Pennsylvania

DEAR HELP, PLEASE » As relationships evolve, couples learn more about each other. You didn’t mention how long you and this man have been involved with each other, but if it has been less than a year, you would be wise to slow things down. It would be in your interest to know why his family thinks he doesn’t know what love is. The answer to that question could be enlightening.

As to your not being certain that he doesn’t want to be a father, in spite of the fact that he says he doesn’t, not everyone wants children. If you aren’t sure that everything he’s telling you is the truth, I suggest you wait a few more innings before swinging for a home run.