Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): It’s wise to look for the upside of a situation, especially if it’s a bad situation. You recognize the downside, of course, but it would be pointless to dwell there. Taurus (April 20-May 20): In today’s case, ignorance will not be bliss. Ignorance will be something more akin to apathy. Bliss isn’t on the menu today anyway, but you will be happier seeking knowledge than not. Gemini (May 21-June 21): If your eyes were sun lamps, you’d be giving a certain someone a face tan. The exchange of extra attention will be good for both of you. On a side note, your nutritional needs are changing. Consider changing your eating style. Cancer (June 22-July 22): Sleep is underrated. It’s a healer and a spiritual tool. It’s a teleportation system, an entertainment system, a protection system and an energetic restoration system. Bottom line: Get more sleep. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): At the juncture of an important decision, you may be worried that you’ll do something you’ll regret. Don’t. People usually don’t regret their mistakes. What they regret is their missed opportunities. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Someone is hiding his or her true feelings from you, probably afraid of being an inconvenience. But convenience isn’t everything. Make your caring heart known. Be a soft place to land. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): If you could fix what another person is going through, you would. It’s painful to watch without being able to do something about it. Getting involved would mean crossing a line — not always a bad thing, but certainly worthy of careful deliberation. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): There are those who won’t be able to keep up with you, and you’ll have to find a workaround for this. Everyone doesn’t have to get there at the same time, but stay hopeful that all will get there eventually. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): People are good at different things. You may look at the next guy and wonder how he does it, but you can bet that in a different category, others think the same thing about you. Give yourself more credit today. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): You feel it’s time to prove your worth to your boss or loved one. The trouble is, you have to believe it, or it’s not going to work. Furthermore, once you believe it, proving it to others will be a moot point. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Before you embark on a project, ask yourself: Who would be the most fun person to do this with? Then ask: Who has the expertise I most need? The right person will bring both levity and serious skills to the table. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): Complaining is a favorite pastime for the modern human ... or maybe it’s more of a disease. While it’s important to note the problem, to stop there would be folly and weakness. It’s why you take action today.

To write to Holiday Mathis, visit www.creators.com/ author/holiday-mathis and click “Contact.” DEAR ABBY » My son and his wife have been together 10 years. They met and fell in love young. They are only 25 and have two beautiful children.

I remarried three years ago, and my son’s wife was instantly attracted to my 54-year-old husband. It’s always uncomfortable for the two of us when they come to visit. She stares at him throughout the entire visit, tries to either sit right next to him or directly across from him, and expects a hug every time they arrive and leave. (We finally put a stop to it because she would wait to hug him last and then hold him extra long.)

My husband confided that he’s flattered a 25-year-old gives him that much attention. Three years of this can be very wearing. Anything I can do and NOT lose my son?

— Awkward in the East

DEAR AWKWARD » Tell your son that it appears his wife has a crush on your husband, and that while he is flattered that someone so young would find him attractive, her behavior makes both of you uncomfortable. Then let him explain to her that it is time to cool her engines.

DEAR ABBY » I have been best friends with a woman for 30 years, but lately our relationship has become strained. If I do something that irritates her, she gives me the cold shoulder and won’t return my phone calls. When she eventually calls back, she’s distant and cold.

I was out of the country for an extended period, and when I returned, she was upset with me for not phoning her. Now she’s upset with me because my husband and I missed an important milestone because of a family emergency.

I am tired of her passiveaggressive behavior, and I have come to realize that our lives have taken us in different directions. Mine is family-oriented. Hers is not because she has no children. Am I wrong to feel this way? — Frustrated in New Mexico

DEAR FRUSTRATED » No, your perception is accurate. Your “bestie” appears to be unusually high maintenance. Rather than allow her to make you feel guilty, realize that not all friendships last forever, and this one may have run its course. Talk to her and express your feelings about this, but be prepared for the fact that it will probably end your relationship.

DEAR ABBY » My wife and I are in our 60s. We have been married for some time and are very open-minded. She keeps insisting that she does not remember her first sexual experience. I would be curious to understand why in the world, unless someone was inebriated, the person would not recall this huge milestone.

— Bewildered in the West

DEAR BEWILDERED » Not every question needs an answer. If your wife’s first experience was unpleasant or traumatic, she may have repressed the memory. Or she may simply prefer not to discuss it with you. My intuition tells me that you will have nothing to gain by continuing to push her. If you do, it not only won’t bring you closer; it may do the opposite.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.