Remember you are enough

Dear Annie: I would like to comment on the letter you received about the daughter-inlaw who is a people pleaser and wants her mother-in-law to like her. I am the granddaughter of a mother-in-law who was just like that.

As a result, I suffer from severe depression and anxiety. With therapy, it has lessened.

She should count herself lucky that this toxic woman does not want to be in her life. — Outlawed In-laws’ Daughter.

Dear Outlawed In-laws ’Daughter: How someone treats you says a lot more about how she feels about herself than it does about you. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Don’t ever give your unhappy grandmother your consent for her to make you feel inferior.

Continue to work with your therapist on your depression and anxiety. And always remember that you are enough. The purpose of life is not to be perfect; the purpose is to enjoy the ride.

Dear Annie: I have been fully vaccinated because I work with young children. My husband has asthma, and I have several health concerns. Much to our delight, out eldest daughter is expecting our first grandchild in the fall. My husband refuses to be vaccinated, and our daughter doesn’t want anyone around her newborn who is not vaccinated. My husband has been a good father, but this is very upsetting to me. What can I do? — No Vaccine Support

Dear No Vaccine Support:

Congratulations on your first grandchild. Your husband will have to live with the consequences of not holding and bonding with his grandchild. Rather than trying to persuade him with information, focus on the fun and fulfillment you will feel and have with your new grandchild. And if the child looks like him or acts like him, be sure to tell him. In time, he just might come around.