As the light returns, taking stock of a very dark year
And now the light comes back. On Monday the winter solstice arrived, marking the moment we begin the slow climb out of the darkness, like weary miners exiting the pit. This year more than ever the shift feels psychological as well as astronomical, so it’s a good time to take account of the things we’ve missed during this dark time, along with what has provided some light in spite of it all.
In that spirit, I’ve made two lists. I encourage you to make your own.
Things I’ve missed
1. The ability to plan
Before the pandemic, most of us made plans. For trips. Get-togethers. The future. But until March many of us enjoyed the fiction that we could control the time ahead. Now we live in the wobblier world of the day-by-day, which is disorienting but closer to reality.
2. Chitchat
Remember the idle but vital conversation you used to have with people at the coffeehouse or at work or church? Until you’re deprived of chitchat, you don’t notice how much those seemingly small connections and conversations educate and sustain you. 3. Coffeehouses
Nothing like a chilly December day to make you yearn for that cozy place outside the house where you can think, read or chitchat.
4. Airplanes
In a movie scene the other night, I saw a man on an airplane and felt an unexpected jolt of nostalgia. Was I really nostalgic for the feel of pulling down the tray table? I was.
5. Travel
I miss the visits to friends and family. The possibility of exploring new and distant places. The change of view. The sense of movement.
6. Casual touch
Remember the hello hug, the goodbye hug, the it’ll-be-OK hug? How long before those seem OK again?
7. Live music and theater
One day this summer I stopped to listen to a band playing in a neighborhood park. I saw a couple of bystanders with tears in their eyes and felt the same way.
8. Wearing dresses
I love a good, simple dress. But what’s the point in a pandemic?
9. People I love
We talk, we email, we have dinner across the Zoom screen. The separation has made me realize how much I love and depend on friends and family. Missing them makes me appreciate them more. Which leads to the second list.
Things I’ve appreciated more
1. Health care workers. Grocery clerks. Delivery people. Postal carriers. Poll workers. Journalists who go out into the world seeking sense in the chaos.They were “essential” before, but rarely recognized that way.
Also, newspaper carriers. It’s a good season to tip yours, by the way.
2. Small businesses, and the people who work in them As they struggle to stay alive in the pandemic, we realize their value more acutely.
3. Birds, bugs and trees
Nothing like being stuck at home to make you notice what lives around you.
4. Reliable Wi-Fi
As we’ve become more dependent on Wi-Fi, we’ve also learned how many people are deprived of it. Access to Wi-Fi is just one of the inequities the pandemic has exposed. 5. White vinegar
Cut the vinegar with dish soap and water to clean kitchen counters. Mix it with water to wash berries and keep them from spoiling. The opportunities are endless.
6. My neighbors
The pandemic has forced us outside — to eat, to exercise, to socialize — and, like many people, I’ve gotten to know my neighbors better as a result.
7. Good walking shoes
I recently wrote about the psychological benefits of walking through the pandemic. Many people replied with a question: What shoes do you wear? For the past couple of years I’ve sworn by the On Cloud (aka On or OC) basic “Cloud” shoe, made for running and walking.
8. Good novels about plagues
It’s weirdly consoling to read about other plagues in distant times. Those stories put this plague into perspective. A few favorites: “Year of Wonders” by Geraldine Brooks. “Station Eleven” by Emily St. John Mandel. “The End of October” by Lawrence Wright. 9. Being alive long enough to watch the light return.
Mary Schmich is a columnist for the Chicago Tribune and winner of the 2012 Pulitzer Prize for commentary.