Daily Times (Primos, PA)

Not thankful for hyper-partisansh­ip fracturing America

- Chris Freind Chris Freind is an independen­t columnist and commentato­r whose column appears every Wednesday. He can be reached at CF@FFZMedia.com Follow him on Twitter @chrisfrein­d.

A first-time customer walks into a store and spends $1,000. But despite his significan­t purchase, he is verbally harassed by several employees, including the owner. Why?

Because the customer was wearing a mask and keeping his distance. That’s it.

Instead of respecting his decision, the employees - none of whom were donning masks - gave the customer attitude. They got their backs up when he placed his credit card on the counter and stepped away, sarcastica­lly proclaimin­g to everyone, “This guy doesn’t want to be near anyone …. don’t go near him.” The verbal haranguing culminated with this gem from the owner: “Don’t know if you heard, but your savior Joe Biden won the election. And since he’s going to save everyone from coronaviru­s, you don’t need to ‘social distance’ or wear your mask anymore.” After stating that COVID was the same as the flu, he then patronized the customer by sneering: “If you’re so scared, just walk away and we’ll deliver your stuff curbside.”

Several points:

1) Being ignorant isn’t a crime. If people want to think coronaviru­s is no big deal, that’s their prerogativ­e. But why attempt to humiliate those who take it seriously? Maybe the customer had a compromise­d immune system. Maybe someone in his household was high-risk. Or maybe he just didn’t want to chance getting the virus that has killed a quarter-million Americans. Whatever the reason, wearing a mask was not only the recommende­d protocol, but his personal choice.

If a person wants to wear two sweatshirt­s into a store when it’s 100 degrees, so what? You may not think it’s smart, but it’s none of your business.

Mandates aside, wearing a mask isn’t political; its’s personal.

2) The owner’s hypocrisy is stunning. As a Trump supporter, he’s likely a conservati­ve Republican. So, if true, what happened to the “live and let live” philosophy of true conservati­ves? Instead, he showed himself to be no different than the intolerant left - who such people claim to despise. And if the argument devolves into “well, there are degrees of intoleranc­e,” the party’s already over.

3) Our nasty, ultra-partisan society has made many lose all perspectiv­e and self-awareness, resulting in assumption­s that are more often wrong than right. How ironic that the owner blasted the customer for being a Biden supporter - when in fact he had a Trump sticker on his car.

And there’s an outstandin­g chance that the owner didn’t come close to matching the customer’s political contributi­ons. Yep. Turns out the patron maxed out to Donald Trump’s campaign twice (primary and general elections), and gave the maximum allowable amount to five Republican U.S. candidates. True story.

So let’s get this straight. A business owner felt it acceptable to publicly ridicule a maskwearin­g customer as a Biden supporter (for simply protecting himself in a pandemic), despite reality being the complete opposite.

The primary reason for our widening divide is that many on both sides refuse to respect the beliefs of others —on damn near everything. And that’s why re-discoverin­g the unity we once possessed is fastapproa­ching the status of the dodo.

It took over 1,000 years of war, but by 776 B.C., the ancient Greeks finally

realized the importance of unity. And so the Olympic Games were born. Every four years, hostilitie­s ceased, as

leaders and athletes gathered in Olympia to compete and celebrate in the spirit of good will.

But more important than what occurred on those fields was what transpired off them. Greeks who had long been mortal enemies came together, enjoying food and drink with one other. It was here that ideas and philosophi­es were debated with vigor - and respect.

By opening their minds, the Greeks created an unpreceden­ted level of understand­ing. And in many instances, adversarie­s became allies; allies became neighbors; and yes, neighbors became friends. That comradery led to the epiphany that Greeks weren’t that different from each other after all. And so began the Golden Age, where ideas were born that survived all the way until ... well, until now.

In what was the nastiest contest in American history, the

candidates’ respect for each other was nonexisten­t, personal insults were

commonplac­e, and tolerance for the “other side” vanished, replaced by bitter partisan attitudes and vitriolic attacks.

If we can’t even debate each other with common courtesy, how can we ever expect to work together, let alone solve anything? What the hell has happened to us?

There is no excuse for such rudeness. None. As leaders, Donald Trump and Joe Biden should have known that millions looked to them for guidance, and that their actions, good or bad, would be emulated. Unfortunat­ely, the bad far outweighed the good. And that is a reflection of our society

We have become a rude, gluttonous, self-absorbed people with little empathy for anyone but ourselves. Common decency and good manners have become casualties in our allabout-me entitlemen­t society.

Yet not all that long ago, it wasn’t like this.

Ronald Reagan enjoyed tremendous success despite the odds stacked against him. Above all, he was a gentleman - staunch in his beliefs, to be sure, yet approachab­le, with a knack for listening to friend and foe alike. He valued respect and courtesy over brashness and arrogance, and carried himself with a sincerity and likability that trumped political calculatio­n. And despite facing a Democratic-controlled Congress, The Gipper still managed to accomplish incredible things, because his opponents, such as Speaker Tip O’Neill, were also were his friends.

They found a way to work together, not because they had to, but because they wanted to. And that made all the difference.

It was the same with society. If someone had a problem with a neighbor, he’d walk next door and talk it out, without insults and threats of lawsuits. Same at work, school, play, even in government. But then, sadly, things changed. Consider:

- Many now deem it acceptable to shout obscenitie­s at the motorist who didn’t stomp on the accelerato­r the second the light turned green. Or insult someone at the ATM because we’re “inconvenie­nced” by waiting two minutes.

- It has become commonplac­e for adults (and, sadly, their children) to butt in front of others - the same parents who scream at referees during sporting events and permit their children to call teachers and coaches by their first names.

- Social media addiction has created a cocoon, stripping away personal skills and producing generation­s completely oblivious to traditiona­l social mores. Ironically, the more social media “friends” people have, the more their social isolation increases - because such “friendship­s” aren’t just unreal, but not human. Now, instead of talking person-to-person, it’s all too easy to demonize those with whom we disagree by blasting away on Facebook or Twitter, facts and reputation­s be damned.

- Unfortunat­ely, the idea of service has mostly disappeare­d. Once we had a multitude of social organizati­ons, from the Knights of Columbus to Scouting, where members worked for the good of the community. But for the most part, they are sad ghosts of the past, casualties of those who consider anything interferin­g with Netflix bingewatch­ing and Instagram posts to be sacrilegio­us.

- And we have succumbed to political correctnes­s, where tolerance is a foreign concept, everyone is “triggered” by everything, and reasonable discussion is shot down as racist, bigoted, shaming, hurtful, insensitiv­e, and otherwise “offensive.” The majority may disagree with the PC police, but their silence has become a tacit endorsemen­t of our hyper-sensitive society.

Will insults and intoleranc­e rule the day and become the “new normal?” Or will we put an end to it, right here and now, and demand that civility and respect once again become the cornerston­es of our society? The choice is ours.

The Greeks did it 3,000 years ago. Why can’t we?

 ?? ASSOCIATED PRESS ?? Defiant supporters of President Donald Trump held a rally in Washington on Saturday a week after the presidenti­al race was called for Democrat Joe Biden.
ASSOCIATED PRESS Defiant supporters of President Donald Trump held a rally in Washington on Saturday a week after the presidenti­al race was called for Democrat Joe Biden.
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