Sex that Works: An Intimate Guide to Awakening Your Erotic Life

Wendy Strgar

Sounds True Softcover $16.95 (224pp) 978-1-62203-889-3 Strgar’s book offers the tools to feed and grow in sexual curiosity.

For many people, sex isn’t self-explanatory. Author and relationship expert Wendy Strgar explores the many ways women can reconnect with their sexuality, passion, and partners, in her self-help guide, Sex That Works: An Intimate Guide to Awakening Your Erotic Life. Incorporating stories, skill-building exercises, and her personal experiences as a wife, lover, and mother, Strgar’s book is relatable and honest.

Strgar’s premise is simple: sex is best when we’re connected to our deepest, most authentic selves. But in a world with so many distractions, it’s easy to lose sight of who we are and what we want. Human sexuality is bombarded with messages, marketing, and images that can be confusing—whether it’s pornography that shows sex acts that aren’t realistic or pleasurable, or dating apps that make courtship rituals and intimacy building a thing of the past.

Strgar offers a road map back to good sex. She divides Sex That Works into nine chapters, each addressing a different aspect of intimacy. She believes we must define our own personal “normal” when it comes to sex. “Building a working vocabulary for your most intimate physiology is foundational to developing the capacity to express what feels good when, how, and where,” she says. “Let your body’s wisdom lead you into a language of touch.”

Strgar draws from her experience in her thirty-year marriage, as well as twelve years of writing about love, sexual health, and celebrating sexuality. She emphasizes that good sex isn’t prescriptive: it’s a journey, to be undertaken with humor and joy.

Sex That Works speaks mostly to heterosexual, female, cisgendered women in long-term