1. Do what you want people to do.

“For example, you’ve got one or two pics on your profile but you want other guys to have more than that. Well, you should have eight or ten pictures up there and just take that off the table. Have lots of different pictures because the law of reciprocity says that if I’m talking to you and you have eight pictures and I have one, then you’re much more likely to get more pictures out of me if you have them.”

2. Do not be afraid to ask questions.

“Somebody wrote me about how they arranged coffee with a guy they met on an app, showed up and he was 4-foot-3-inches tall. And this guy likes tall guys. I said, ‘Why didn’t you just ask?’ and he said, ‘Well, I just thought it would be rude to ask for height and weight.’ Well, I don’t think it’s rude. This is especially true on Tinder where you just see a picture, not height or weight.”

3. Ask very early on to meet.

“Whether it’s to hook up or just grab coffee, ask to meet that night. Because their answer is going to tell you how serious they are, because someone that’s serious will say, ‘I can’t tonight, how about tomorrow?’ The unserious person will say, ‘I can’t.’ Period. So I would post that as a qualifying question. Why go in 30 texts deep before you start to realize that this guy just wants to text? Find out up front.”