Work­ing on the lit­tle things in the new year

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Happy New Year! I think this change in cal­en­dar is a great tra­di­tion be­cause it is good for all of us to imagine a re­set but­ton on any­thing in our lives – whether it’s your body, your job or your love life. There is noth­ing wrong with want­ing to con­stantly im­prove your sit­u­a­tion, but many make the mis­take of only fo­cus­ing on ma­jor changes this time of year. There are plenty of lit­tle things I have ob­served oth­ers do that might prove to be the more im­por­tant things that need an over­haul. Here are a few ex­am­ples, and for­give me if I step on a few toes:

Walk­ing ahead of me.

Re­gard­less of how fast or slow each of us walk, if we are to­gether then we should ad­just our pace to match the other’s. Walk­ing ahead of me and sim­ply ex­pect­ing me to catch up is not an in­di­ca­tion I am an equal part of our time to­gether. Have you ever seen a cou­ple walk­ing sep­a­rately and thought they were do­ing well?

Not putting your shop­ping cart back.

Most gro­cery stores have made it very easy to re­turn shop­ping carts, plac­ing sev­eral re­turn sta­tions within the park­ing lot and just a few paces from your car. If you are one of those peo­ple who find even that sim­ple task dif­fi­cult and leave your shop­ping cart wher­ever your car was, then you should work out more if your stamina can’t han­dle just a few more steps.

What about that chair?

I waited for a togo or­der at a lo­cal restau­rant re­cently, and no­ticed a cou­ple sit­ting near me do­ing the same thing. Once they re­ceived their or­der, nei­ther pushed their chairs back un­der the ta­ble as they left. A small thing, yet in the same vein as the shop­ping cart. If you don’t place the cart or your chair in the place where you found it, some­one else is go­ing to have to do it for you. Know­ing that sim­ply makes the guilty rude.

How you treat the wait staff.

Speak­ing of restau­rants, you go out to eat so you don’t have to cook or clean up. Some­where along the way our so­ci­ety went from be­ing ap­pre­cia­tive of the abil­ity to re­lax and eat to feel­ing su­pe­rior to the peo­ple who serve us our food and drink. A huge turnoff for me is some­one who not only dis­re­gards a server as they are re­fill­ing a drink or bring­ing plates, but also ar­gues with them about some­thing in­signif­i­cant. You are pay­ing for the abil­ity to re­turn home to a clean kitchen, not for some­one to kiss your ass. The same could be ap­plied to jan­i­tors in your of­fice. You don’t have to worry about clean­ing up your work area be­cause of these hard-work­ing in­di­vid­u­als, so why can’t you speak to them in the same re­spect­ful man­ner you would a col­league or man­ager?

A new year means a new you, but don’t miss the small ways in which you in­ter­act with oth­ers in your world. Who knows, maybe pay­ing at­ten­tion to these lit­tle things will lead to the big changes you have in mind for the next 12 months.

Melissa Carter is one of the Morn­ing Show hosts on B98.5. In ad­di­tion, she is a writer for the Huff­in­g­ton Post. She is rec­og­nized as one of the first out ra­dio per­son­al­i­ties in At­lanta and one of the few in the coun­try. Fol­low her on Twit­ter@Melis­saCarter

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