Face­book over­shar­ing crosses lines

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OK. Enough is enough, peo­ple. Some of you on Face­book have lost your damn minds.

While scrolling on my Face­book feed re­cently, I saw a pic­ture of an open cas­ket. That’s right, some­one de­cided the per­fect time to break out the phone and take a pic­ture is dur­ing a fu­neral when they ap­proached an open cas­ket. There are some things I don’t want to see on Face­book and, as you can imag­ine, that is one of them.

The prob­lem is that wasn’t a unique vi­o­la­tion of my eyes. You tend to vi­o­late so many other com­mon sense rules on Face­book that no won­der young kids have no in­ter­est in open­ing a Face­book ac­count. Re­ally, stud­ies show kids don’t think Face­book is cool and I be­lieve that is be­cause they see their par­ents, grand­par­ents, aunts, un­cles and cousins com­pletely over­share.

For in­stance, you post pic­tures from the hos­pi­tal. Even worse, it’s not while you’re vis­it­ing any­one, it’s while you’re in the hos­pi­tal. First of all, a hos­pi­tal gown is rarely flat­ter­ing, and nei­ther is the flu­o­res­cent light­ing above a gur­ney, so why in the hell are you tak­ing a selfie at that time? Even more of a vi­o­la­tion is when you are vis­it­ing some­one who has been ad­mit­ted into the hos­pi­tal and you take a pic­ture of that other per­son dur­ing the most un­flat­ter­ing times. They don’t want that posted, and even if I was doz­ing off from anes­the­sia, I would knock that phone out of your hand if I saw you tak­ing a pic­ture of me half out of it with an IV hang­ing out of my arm.

On a lesser level, but just as frus­trat­ing, is your need to take pic­tures of peo­ple who are sick at home. Maybe it’s to prove they re­ally are sick if they called into work, but don’t post pic­tures of any­one sick. Why would I want to see some­one who is not feel­ing well? To be hon­est, it’s a lit­tle awk­ward.

And you par­ents who post pics of kids ei­ther in the hos­pi­tal or at home who don’t feel well, shame on you. They don’t want that, and aren’t you sup­posed to be mak­ing them some chicken noo­dle soup in­stead of star­ing into your phone? It seems Face­book has sim­ply be­come an on­line prayer line, and your need to make your kid look as piti­ful as pos­si­ble to get at­ten­tion is of­fen­sive. Come on.

I use Face­book on a daily ba­sis and still think it is a great way to stay in touch with those you no longer see, or to get the word out about an event or is­sue you want to share, but how about we stop be­ing ridicu­lous in what we want others to see? If you wouldn’t place a pic­ture in a frame in your of­fice, then why are you post­ing it on­line? The me­dia has to re­ceive waivers to in­clude images of any­one they cap­ture on cam­era, and I’m start­ing to be­lieve that re­stric­tion might have to ap­ply to in­di­vid­u­als on so­cial me­dia as well.

Melissa Carter is rec­og­nized as one of the first out ra­dio per­son­al­i­ties in At­lanta and has been heard over the years on B98.5 and Q100. In ad­di­tion, she is a writer for the Huff­in­g­ton Post. Fol­low her on Twit­ter @Melis­saCarter.

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