Woman may be losing beau in prison
Dear Abby: I am a 42-yearold mother of three who has been in a relationship with a man for almost six years. He is incarcerated. We started out as friends. Things were great until this year, when he reconnected with an old girlfriend.
I had a conversation with her over Facebook, and she wanted to invite me out for coffee one day. I ended up messaging her later on that night, and she told my boyfriend I had “made her uncomfortable.” She ended up blocking me on Facebook.
Abby, he’s now saying he’s in love with both of us! I’m not allowed to talk about her, and anything they talk about is “none of my business.” I do not get as many phone calls from him as I used to, and I think it’s because of her. I’m not sure what her plans are, but I get the feeling she’s trying to get me out of the picture. Please tell me what to do.
Crowded in Alaska
Dear Crowded: What you should “do” is reassess your relationship with this twotiming felon. His ex-girlfriend may indeed be maneuvering to get you out of the picture, and my advice to you, which I sincerely hope you will follow, is to LET HER DO IT.
Dear Abby: I’ve read many letters over the years about relationships in which there is a significant age gap, and thought I would like to share a success story. My boyfriend and I have a 22-year age difference, and we couldn’t be happier. We are both divorced with children (his is grown and lives independently; mine are 14 and 11). We found each other about a year before the pandemic. He was above the age range I’d specified on online dating apps, but we met at a mutual friend’s art opening. There were immediate sparks, and we didn’t realize our age difference until about a week later. By then the seeds of a mature, non-codependent relationship were sprouting.
He’s 60 now, and I am 38. We live separately, but go back and forth between the houses most nights. He’s actively engaged in my kids’ lives, and we’re talking about marriage. This is the best relationship either of us has ever been in.
Luckiest Girl in Texas
Dear Luckiest Girl: While there can be challenges in May-December unions, you and your boyfriend appear to be looking at the future with eyes wide open.
Thank you for your upper of a letter.