Family can’t match dad’s enthusiasm
Dear Abby: My husband gets very upset when our 4-year-old sons don’t share his enthusiasm over something that excites him. He wants them (and me) to jump up and down or cheer when he’s excited about something. The problem is, he tends to share his news when we’re getting ready for bed or just plain tired. Any suggestions for a compromise, please?
At a Loss in Texas
Dear At A Loss: Explain to your husband that you are “sorry” he’s upset at the lack of enthusiasm he’s receiving when he’s excited about something, but his TIMING is off. If he expects you and the children to be his cheering section, it would be helpful if he timed his announcements so they don’t conflict with bedtime, when everyone’s energy level is low.
Dear Abby: My former husband and I have been divorced for more than two years. We had our wedding reception in a club with live music, and we would go there every Saturday night to listen to the music.
We were divorced shortly after our marriage because he had frequent violent outbursts.
I’d like to go back and listen to the musicians, but I don’t know what to say when they ask me where he is.
Uncertain Music Lover
Dear Music Lover: When you are asked, all you need to say is, “’John’ and I are no longer a couple, so you won’t be seeing him with me anymore.”
It isn’t necessary to share any details beyond that.
Dear Abby: My grandparents have been very generous. They started an investment fund for me that has grown nicely.
Now I’m married (I’m 37; my husband is 42), we are financially stable and obtaining financial counseling, and we have decided to place those funds in a different form of investment. The rub is that Grandma objects to any changes to these gift.
How do I let her know we are handling our finances now?
Cutting the Apron Strings
Dear Cutting: Start by telling your grandmother again how grateful you are for everything she has provided these many years. Explain to her what your investment plans are for the money that has accumulated, and your reasons for wanting to change. If she has concerns, suggest she discuss them with the financial adviser you plan to employ.