Questions about height irk family

Dear Abby: My husband is 6 feet, 6 inches tall. My 19-year-old son is taller, at 6 feet, 7 inches. They loathe being asked how tall they are. There are times when they are proud of their height and others when they have felt uncomfortable to “tower” over others.

Often, the question is asked in a tone that conveys the person perceives them as some kind of “freak of nature.” They have been told they “must have been really well-fed growing up,” or the commenters are “so glad they never had to pay THEIR food bills.”

My son or husband would never ask anyone in retort, “How short are you?” or “How much do you weigh?”

Why do people think that questions about how tall someone is don’t fall into the same category? What’s an appropriate response when the person asking makes you out to be some kind of freak?

Tall Person Sympathizer

Dear Sympathizer:

Sometimes people, without intending to be rude, blurt out the first thing that comes into their heads, and height is hard to miss. This isn’t the first time I have been told that some tall individuals are selfconscious about it.

While all of us can have a bad day, I think the best way for your son and your husband to handle these questions would be to hang onto their sense of humor.

Dear Abby: My man and I have been together for two years. He has his own place, and I have mine. We really enjoy each other’s company. I have a 13-yearold daughter. The issue is, we haven’t been out on a real date since we’ve been together. (I understand that the pandemic had an impact on this.) I feel, at some point, something’s got to give. I have mentioned it to him a few times already. What’s a woman like me to do?

Dear Homebound:

If you want a mate who is a self-starter, this person isn’t it.

A woman “like you” should make the plans, tell her man where they are going and what they’ll be doing and what time to pick her up for that date.

If, after two years of expressing what you would like, your message still hasn’t gotten through, please understand this will probably be the pattern for the rest of your relationship.