Woman is questioning marriage

Dear Abby: I’m a lesbian. My wife and I have been married for nine years, but since COVID and my mother’s death, we have had problems. I met a man online; he’s an actor. We grew close via the internet. When my wife found out, we fought, and this man and I haven’t been as close.

Although we mended our relationship and I love her, I seem to always wonder. About a year ago, I got hit on by another actor on Instagram, and we also grew close until my wife found out. I stopped, but I still maintain contact, and I’m not sure why.

I wonder if I’m happy with my wife or if it would be better with someone else. I keep questioning my identity. Any advice? Lacking Certainty in California

Dear Lacking Certainty: If you were getting everything you need, you wouldn’t be “wondering” and reaching out to members of the opposite sex. It is important for you AND your wife that you find the answers to your very important questions.

Because you are unsure about the depth of your commitment to your wife as well as your identity, your next step should be to discuss this with a licensed mental health professional.

Dear Abby: A family friend, “Simone,” makes the time we spend together unbearable. She’s married to my husband’s best friend, “Earl.” We see them often and spend many holidays together. Before Earl married Simone, we thought she was a pretty normal person and a great match for him. Over time, we have come to realize that she’s anything but.

Simone is loud and dramatic, and she loves to be the center of attention.

Also, if she doesn’t get her way, she resorts to talking like a baby or making a scene. She constantly complains about being sick. It happens every time she isn’t the center of attention. My husband and I and another couple are getting fed up. My husband has been best friends with Earl since they were kids, so this is tough.

Hard to Bear in the South

Dear Hard To Bear: Not all friendships last forever. Because your husband is on the same page as you and the other couple, it shouldn’t be too hard. When the men want to get together, they can do it without you.