When someone seeks revenge
When someone lashes out at you because they are seeking revenge, it can be very scary. Resentment and anger can turn some people into evildoers who think they are completely in the right.
They do not think about the damage they are doing to people on the sidelines, sometimes including their own children. When vengeful people want to get back at an ex or someone they believe has mistreated them, all reason goes out the window and they may become blind with rage.
If this is something you are dealing with, please be careful. This type of anger can be very dangerous for both you and your loved ones. You may get abused, threatened, stalked, or terrorized, and you may think there is nothing you can do about it. You need to know that help is out there.
Talk with a lawyer and the police, and don’t be afraid to make a report. Also don’t be afraid to say that you are afraid. If you don’t take this seriously, the authorities won’t either. The actions I mentioned are all crimes, and you deserve and can receive protection.
Unfortunately, sometimes people do their best to make another person’s life miserable — they may even try to destroy it — and never stop to think that they are committing a crime.
One of the worst parts of going through something like this is the anxiety and depression it can cause. It can be very difficult to shake off, and you may find yourself ruminating on how your life has taken such a bad turn or on what else could go wrong. This is when you need to get support, and you need to remember to eat well and drink plenty of fluids.
Finding ways to relax and center yourself, if only for a few moments, can be very helpful. If you are dwelling on what’s going on, it’s important to take breaks throughout the day from thinking about it. It helps to remember the positives in your life.
Deep breathing is another helpful tool. To make it more effective, when you inhale, hold your breath for three seconds before exhaling. Pausing for deep breathing throughout the day will give you some
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Talking out your feelings is also very important. If you sit on a bunch of emotional distress hoping to lessen the impact on your loved ones, it won’t work. Your loved ones will be affected by your situation. To minimize the fallout, I advise talking with someone other than your mate, because your mate is also dealing with the same issues but at a different level. Instead, I strongly urge seeking a licensed professional who has some experience helping people cope with the kind of difficulties you are going through.
The old saying “This too shall pass” is an important one to remember as you fight this battle. Trust that you have done nothing wrong and focus on the good that is going on around you. In time, your life will be normal again.