Timing is right for plastic surgery, but parents object.
Dear Abby:
I am 23 years old, working full time as a teacher, and I’m about to move out of my parents’ house. I have decided to have breast-augmentation surgery, and I know the best time to do it would be this summer so I’ll have time to recover before school starts.
The problem is my parents are adamantly against my having this surgery. I’ve heard it all: “I wish you loved your body the way it is.” “That’s so superficial,” and “You’ll regret it!”
I would wait until I move out, but my new place (which is being built) won’t be finished until the end of the school year. I have postponed this surgery for several years, and now I have the money, and I’m ready. How can I please my parents and also please myself ?
Tired of Waiting
Dear Tired of Waiting:
Have another talk with your folks and explain that though they may wish you loved your body the way it is, you don’t. Tell them that you don’t feel wanting the surgery is superficial and that you feel it will give you confidence about your appearance that you don’t have now.
The decision about whether to have plastic surgery is a personal one. No one should make it for you.
If you decide later that you regret it, you can have the implants removed. Some women have done that — but most women don’t.
Dear Abby:
Yesterday I spent the afternoon with a friend who was in town for her husband’s business conference. Her 20-year-old son called her because he had broken the screen on his cellphone.
Over the next two hours as we visited, she took phone calls from him, researched places to get his phone fixed, then proceeded to fill out insurance forms on her phone for the repair while I sat there. I finally stood up and said I was leaving because she seemed to be “busy.” She immediately became offended and rudely said, “Well! Sorry I p-d you off!”
Abby, it was a broken cellphone, not a broken arm. Am I wrong for feeling the way I do? We have been friends for more than 30 years.
Dear Insulted:
You’re not wrong. Your friend must have thought her son’s predicament was an emergency, which is why she felt compelled to deal with it immediately.