Admitted hypochondriac seeks cure for fear of dying.
Dear Abby:
I’m a hypochondriac. I am currently waiting on the biopsy results for a mole I had removed. I’m worried and miserable. I feel guilty for what I’m putting my husband through. I want to get therapy, but doing that feels like admitting I’m too weak to handle my problems myself. My husband thinks he’s a bad husband because he can’t help me.
This isn’t the first time I have worked myself up over a medical condition I may or may not have, and it won’t be the last. How can I deal with my fear of dying from something horrible without damaging my relationship with my husband? Can hypochondria be cured? It’s starting to take over my life. Hypochondriac in the South
Dear Hypochondriac:
It’s a wise person who seeks help for a problem that’s ruining the quality of his or her life. You should definitely discuss your fear of dying with a licensed mental health professional. To do that isn’t “weak” — it’s the opposite.
Dear Abby:
My son is getting married in the fall, and we’re all looking forward to the celebration. There’s just one problem. My daughter will be in the wedding, and the bridesmaids’ dresses are strapless. She will look beautiful in the dress, but she adopted a “hippy lifestyle” a year ago and stopped shaving her armpits.
The bride-to-be asked me how to approach her to request that she remove her armpit hair on the day of the wedding. Is there a tactful way to approach this without offending my daughter and possibly causing bad feelings between her and the bride? Unsure in New Jersey
Dear Unsure:
I would discourage you from doing that. Although every bride wants her wedding to be “perfect,” there’s a point at which she must realize there are some things she can’t control. An example of where that boundary should be drawn would be at her bridesmaids’ armpits.
During a formal wedding ceremony, bridesmaids usually keep their arms down, so unless your daughter’s “pit hair” is so long she can braid it, it should not distract attention from the bride.
P.S. If hairy armpits in the wedding pictures concern her, they can be Photoshopped out.