DEAR ABBY
Dear Abby:
I am a new mom to a sweet baby boy. I will have to return to work shortly, and I’m really struggling.
I have a hard time putting my little one in day care, but I don’t have a choice. I have no idea where to begin, how to select the right day care or what questions to ask. Any assistance would be greatly appreciated. New Mom in California Dear New Mom:
Start by talking to your friends and family, asking if they know of a day care that’s good, then make sure that any facility you’re considering is licensed. Spend time there to see how the caregivers interact with the children.
Go to babycenter.com. You will find a section on day care centers that will give you the information you need. You also should check with your state’s department of social services to be sure no complaints have been filed. Good luck.
Dear Abby: Over the years the people closest to me have given me every reason not to trust anyone much. About a year ago I found the courage to date again and met a man who gives me every reason to trust him to the fullest. The problem is, because of my past, I’m having problems doing it. How do I move past my issues and give the relationship I’m in a fair chance? Gun-Shy in Maine Dear Gun-Shy:
Allow the relationship more time to develop. Don’t be afraid to talk things out with him rather than react by jumping to conclusions and/or making accusations.
Listen to what he says and watch what he does. If the two don’t match, regard it as a red flag. However, if they do match, then count your blessings because you may have finally found a winner.
Dear Abby: For years I’ve gone to a neighborhood bar every Friday night for a few hours during cocktail hour. I have recently started using oxygen due to COPD from smoking.
My doctor says I can do anything I feel I’m up to. Well, I’m up to going out to the bar like I used to do. Trouble is, I’m self-conscious about the carrier. It doesn’t bother me to go out to stores, etc., but this does. Should I stay home, bored out of my mind, or get on with the life I used to have? Wants to get on With Life Dear Wants:
Your doctor has said you can do what you want. I see nothing to be gained by sitting home alone and becoming depressed. My concern is that your regular bar may be smoky and be problematic for your alreadydamaged lungs. If the bar is smoke-free, go. But if it isn’t, then I’m suggesting you find one that is.
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