DEAR ABBY:
Crush on mother-in-law’s new husband stirs tension.
Dear Abby:
My son and his wife have been together 10 years. They met and fell in love young. They are only 25 and have two beautiful children.
I remarried three years ago, and my son’s wife was instantly attracted to my 54-year-old husband. It’s always uncomfortable when they visit. She stares at him throughout the entire visit, tries to either sit right next to him or directly across from him and expects a hug every time they arrive and leave. (We finally put a stop to it because she would wait to hug him last and then hold him extra long.)
My husband confided that he’s flattered a 25-year-old gives him that much attention. Three years of this can be very wearing. Anything I can do and not lose my son? Awkward in the East Dear Awkward:
Tell your son that it appears his wife has a crush on your husband and that her behavior makes both of you uncomfortable. Then let him explain that it is time to cool her engines.
Dear Abby:
My wife and I are in our 60s. We have been married for some time and are very openminded. She keeps insisting that she does not remember her first sexual experience. I would be curious to understand why in the world, unless someone was inebriated, the person would not recall this huge milestone. Bewildered in the West Dear Bewildered:
Not every question needs an answer. If your wife’s first experience was unpleasant or traumatic, she may have repressed the memory. Or she may simply prefer not to discuss it with you. My intuition tells me that you will have nothing to gain by continuing to push her.
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