Jealous girlfriend threatens family relations.
Dear Abby:
My brother and his girlfriend live together. One day I heard his exgirlfriend had passed away suddenly, so I told him because I thought he should know. Well! His girlfriend messaged me and told me to mind my own business and stay away from my brother. She’s very jealous.
What was wrong with my telling him? Other people have told me I didn’t do anything wrong. She has threatened my relationship with them. Just Letting Him Know
Dear Just:
There was absolutely nothing wrong with giving your brother the sad news. His girlfriend appears to be pathologically controlling. Do not “stay away” from him. The next time you talk with him, tell him what she said and point out that her attitude isn’t healthy for any of you.
Dear Abby:
My sister is a survivor of breast cancer. She had a single mastectomy and wears a sports bra these days. When I asked her if she was going to get a prosthetic, she told me she doesn’t care.
Recently I met a survivor who was giving away her prosthetics, and she ended up giving them to me to give to my sister.
My question is, how do I give her the gift without her thinking I think she needs it? Or should I not give it to her at all? Unsure in the Midwest
Dear Unsure:
The prudent way to go about it would be to mention to her that you encountered a survivor who no longer needs her prosthetic and ask if she might like to have it. If she refuses, let it go and don’t raise the subject again.
Dear Abby:
I have provided pastoral counseling for 25 years. When an old friend mentioned that she was out of work and couldn’t pay her mortgage, I emailed her a few job notices. In addition, I offered some suggestions about how she could earn some income, such as teaching private golf lessons or holding an indoor yard sale.
I also gave her phone numbers for the Land Loss Prevention Project and the phone number of a bankruptcy firm. She scoffed at my suggestion of bankruptcy protection to save her home. I am perplexed. Abby, what would make a person in need say “Bankruptcy! Really?” and stop speaking to me? Perplexed in the South
Dear Perplexed:
Your old friend may have been put off or frightened when you used the word “bankruptcy.” Or, she may have been expecting you to rescue her by offering her a loan instead of ways to help herself.