GIFT-GIVING GUILT
Nearly half of Americans have felt pressured to overspend during the holidays.
For many Americans, the holidays mean family, food and overspending.
More than 2 in 5 gift shoppers feel pressured to reach deeper into their wallets than they’re comfortable with, according to the 2018 Bankrate Holiday Gifting Survey. Despite budget constraints, there are some lines most people refuse to cross to save money. Buying used and regifting are generally considered to be on the naughty list, the survey finds.
Feeling anxiety about providing a “magical” gift or exceeding someone’s expectations is natural, says Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D., chair and professor of the Department of Counseling, Adult and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University.
“If you let yourself forget that Hallmark had it right when their tagline became, ‘It’s the thought that counts,’ you can be swindled into spending a lot more than you can afford in your efforts to prove your affection and devotion,” Degges-White says.
The survey was conducted online in Ipsos’ Omnibus. The sample consists of 1,000 nationally representative interviews, conducted Oct. 12-14.
Parents and middle-income earners more likely to feel holiday pressure. More than half (54 percent) of respondents with children reported feeling pressure to overspend during the holidays, according to the Bankrate survey.
“I always tell parents to step back and recognize that we all have too much stuff. Let’s face it, kids are going to outgrow their clothes and out-mature their toys. So, if you’re going to spend, spend wisely and be savvy about it,” says Nora Yousif, vice president and financial adviser at RBC Wealth Management.
Yousif recommends spending on intangibles such as contributions to college funds or shares in an innovative company. Or families could do what she and her loved ones do — spend on a group vacation. This year, they’re going to Savannah, Ga.
“There’s nothing wrong with getting old-school,” Yousif says. “Not to sound like Scrooge, but teaching your children to want what they have is a valuable lesson, too. It may not be what the neighbors are gifting their child, but if you’re gifting yours something that will benefit them down the line, like contributions to their college fund, that’s the smarter, savvier gift in the long run.”
Middle-income earners may feel pressured to keep up with the Joneses during the holidays. More than half of those earning between roughly $50,000 and $75,000 felt pushed to overspend — a higher percentage than their peers, according to the Bankrate survey.
The people in the middle are really squeezed for income, says Mark Hamrick, senior economic analyst at Bankrate.
“In some ways, they have the worst of both worlds because there is at least the perceived pressure to spend and also some capability,” Hamrick says. “What’s universally true for all income levels is the need for everybody to have a plan and stick to it.”
Hamrick recommends people create a budget that looks at how much money they’re bringing in from work and other revenue sources each month, as well as how much cash is going out for bills and other expenses. If there’s money left over, people can use the cash to buy gifts. To make it easier, people can open dedicated savings accounts with strong interest rates and set money aside each month leading up to the holidays. However, if no money is available after expenses, people should not reach for their credit cards and take on debt to buy gifts.
“If you’re overspending to try and maintain a certain quality to a friendship or family relationship, then that’s not sustainable,” Hamrick says. “Ultimately, if someone’s world is grounded in something that’s counter to the true spirit of the holidays, then there probably needs to be a reckoning for everybody.”
Overall, spending is expected to reach record levels during the holiday season, moving past the $1 trillion mark for the first time, according to an estimate from the market research firm eMarketer. Consumers are expected to spend an average of $638 on gifts during the holiday season, according to the National Retail Federation and Prosper Insights & Analytics. Saving on holiday gifts The vast majority won’t opt for the nuclear option to save money during the holidays; 13 percent of respondents said they were willing to skip or boycott gift-giving during the upcoming holiday season, according to the Bankrate survey. Other options that remain largely unpopular with shoppers looking to save include buying used or secondhand items and regifting, the survey shows. The stigma of picking up gifts from thrift shops might be lessening as consumers learn more about the environmental and ecofriendly reasons for such shopping, DeggesWhite says. The social taboo against regifting probably comes from the worstcase scenarios we’ve experienced, she says.
“They might have noticed gift tags that gave evidence that the gift was originally given to the giver; clothing items that were stained, wrinkled or noticeably outdated; or gifts that they had given the giver in the past,” Degges-White says. “Regifting isn’t inherently a bad practice, but when it’s done without grace or respect for the recipient, then it can create hard feelings.”
Most respondents looking to save money indicated they felt most comfortable limiting who they’re buying for or actively seeking out coupons and store sales to save money. People get creative in providing a great gifting experience without unwrapping their personal budget. Yankee Swap, Secret Santa and other games are popular for many families and groups of friends.
This year, more than 10 million people are expected to use Elfster, an online version of Secret Santa, according the California-based company.
“Elfster is a great way to save money during the holidays,” says Michael Johnson, spokesman for the company. “I have two main recommendations. First, make sure you set a spending limit that everyone in your group will be comfortable with. Second, make sure everyone gets a great gift. Why spend time and money getting a gift they don’t love? Try using the wish lists and our anonymous Secret Santa questions to make sure everyone gets a gift they will love. That can be a lot of fun and a great way to connect that you don’t experience with more traditional gift giving.” Methodology
The study was conducted online in Ipsos’ Omnibus using the web-enabled “KnowledgePanel,” a probability-based panel designed to be representative of the U.S. general population, not just the online population. The sample consists of 1,000 nationally representative interviews, conducted between Oct. 12-14 among adults 18 and older. The margin of error is plus or minus 3.7 percentage points.