Man tired of dating game is ready to throw in the towel.
Dear Abby:
In the last few years I have had a string of failed relationships. The ladies tell me I’m great and an amazing person. Yet they don’t want to be in a relationship, or they cheat or lie to me.
It seems many women come from abusive relationships or just plain toxic ones, and they are scared because I don’t exhibit any of those traits.
I’m a kind, caring, supportive partner. I’m looking for a partner, someone who eventually may become my queen. These women love that about me but then do everything to distance themselves. It appears nice guys finish last. I was engaged for four years previously.
I’m ready to give up on relationships altogether; the pain just doesn’t seem worth it. Please give me some advice.
— Somebody’s Boyfriend In Michigan
Dear Boyfriend:
You may need to go fishing in different waters. And has it occurred to you that in your loneliness you may be trying too hard, which may scare them off ?
Having never met you, I can’t guess what you might be doing wrong, if anything. It’s time to start asking your married friends why they think this is happening repeatedly. Perhaps they can suggest some “tweaks” or introduce you to women who will appreciate the fine qualities you possess. Dear Abby:
My husband’s first wife died 17 years ago. They were married for 20 years. We have been together 14 years, married for 12. He still insists that her family is his family because of their daughter, who is an amazing young woman. We have an ongoing disagreement about this.
He can’t understand why I refuse to attend functions that include only his late wife’s family. He doesn’t feel my family is his family, only his first wife’s family. When he attends these functions alone, he comes home very angry. He tells me I don’t understand and that I need to go where he goes. I am sorry, Abby, but after another intense disagreement, I’m ready to call it the end of the road. We are both in our 60s, and it’s kind of late for a divorce, so I would appreciate any advice you could give me.
— Arguing A Lot In Montana
Dear Arguing:
Unless your husband’s former in-laws have made you feel unwelcome, I think you should have made a greater effort to accompany him to some of those gatherings. Frankly, I am surprised you would seriously consider ending your marriage over the fact that he still considers them to be family. If ever I thought a couple should get marriage counseling, it is you two. Please consider it before consulting a lawyer.