Religion likely to drive couple apart

Dear Abby: For the first time in my life, I am in love. I know he’s the man I have waited my entire life to meet. We have one huge hurdle, though. He’s actively religious, while I am not.

On every other level, we are wonderful. Our difference isn’t that I don’t believe in God. I do. But that isn’t enough for him.

I told him I would go to church with him and raise our children (his and mine) in a Christian home, but when they are old enough we should allow them to make their own decisions. He says that would be “just going through the motions,” and I’d eventually resent him for it.

Must I let him walk away? Or should I fight for what could be (next to my kids) the best thing that’s ever happened to me? — Heartbroken in Texas Dear Heartbroken: In what way do you plan to “fight”? Do you plan to convert to his religion and devote the kind of time to it that he does?

While his religiosity is laudable, this man doesn’t realize that, regardless of the example he wants to set for his children, eventually they are going to make up their own minds.

This one “difference” is a deal-breaker. He is looking for a spiritual clone. You’re not it, so let him go.

Dear Abby: The company I work for recently switched to digital phones that show the caller’s name and location no matter where they are in the building. Years ago, I formed the habit of introducing myself when placing a call: “Hi, this is Sally from marketing. How are you, Trent? Great! I’m calling because …” I have been informed that what I’m doing is oldfashioned, unnecessary and a waste of everyone’s time.

The preferred method would be to launch into the heart of the conversation with no introduction, just “Hi. I need instructions for the new projectors,” because the person already knows who is calling.

To me, this feels rude, especially when talking with someone I see rarely.

I can’t help but wonder what the long-term office climate will be like. On the other hand, many of my younger co-workers would prefer to conduct business by email or text. ANY conversation feels excessive to them.

How can I maintain what feels like basic good manners without annoying my colleagues? — Polite in California

Dear Polite: There are certain niceties that make interactions more pleasant. While you may no longer have to announce that you are “Sally from marketing,” it is polite to inquire how the person is doing. Because you are getting flak for it, go to your employer or H.R. for guidance.