Unhappy wife should make feelings clear

Dear Abby: My husband barely speaks to me. We both work full time and are facing an empty nest very soon. At home, I have to initiate even the smallest of small talk. He’ll never say “Good morning” or ask “How was your day?”

When I laugh at the Sunday comics, he doesn’t even ask what’s funny. As a result, I have become defensive. Then he accuses me of being “dismissive of his feelings.” We have been to counseling, and maybe it’s time to go again. — Unacknowledged in the South

Dear Unacknowledged:

It is definitely the right move to return to counseling. But when you do, this time speak up for yourself loud and clear. If you do, it may change the dynamics of your relationship because when he accuses you of not communicating, he is blaming the victim. Once you have said your piece, let the marriage and family therapist mediate what is certain to be a long-overdue discussion.

Dear Abby: I am a 25-yearold man currently dating a 39-year-old woman. We have been dating for 2½ months. We have talked about our age difference a couple of times, but apart from that issue, every other aspect of our relationship is going well.

We are not super interested in having children, and we both have expressed interest in adopting a child if we were to have one. Despite this, I have heard from family and close friends that I’m making a terrible mistake.

They say it is not practical to marry a woman so much older because it will present major health and aging challenges. Should I break up with her and tell her that the age difference is the reason? — Not Just a Number in San Francisco

Dear Not Just A Number:

You have been seeing this woman for only 2½ months. The relationship is still new. That you are discussing marriage and children seems to me to be premature. My advice is to slow down.

Dear Abby: This may seem like a strange question, but my husband says our 6-year-old cat, “Taffy,” is really 42 years old. He says one cat year equals seven people years. Taffy is like a baby to me. What gives? — Never Heard That in Nevada

Dear Never Heard: Your husband is right. As you may have already noticed, humans have longer lives than dogs and cats, but pets mature faster. According to veterinary medicine, the first two years of a cat’s life equal 25 human years. After that, every cat year equals four human years. This would make Taffy the ripe old age of 41 or 42. If this is shocking to you, remember that 42 is the new 22.