Mother wants to patch daughters’ rift

Dear Abby: I have three beautiful daughters. The oldest moved to Wisconsin some years ago. About a year ago, my middle daughter went to visit her. My older daughter said something about politics that the younger one didn’t like, and since then the younger one refuses to communicate with her, which is breaking my heart. My older daughter asked if I could help by talking to her.

I tried talking to the younger one. She said she loves her older sister and for me to let her handle it. She promised she would contact her. It has been three months and — nothing. — Mom Referee in Oregon

Dear Mom Referee: Too many things have become politicized lately, and it is to the detriment of relationships both personal and professional. Step back, stop counting the days and refuse to be put in the middle of this.

Dear Abby: A few months ago, new neighbors moved in next door. They have been very nice and helpful. I work a lot, so they have done things like grab packages or take care of little things like bringing in my trash can.

I have thanked them many times, but three weeks ago I decided to do something extra special. I bought a lovely thank-you card and put a $100 restaurant gift card inside. I knocked on their door and handed it to the husband.

Abby, I haven’t received any type of thank-you from them. I don’t want to seem petty, but part of me is hurt by their lack of acknowledgment. Do you think that because they helped me out, they felt they deserved my gift and a thank-you wasn’t necessary? Am I being petty, or do I have a right to feel hurt? — Unappreciated in New York

Dear Unappreciated: Yes, you are being petty. Your neighbors may not have said anything because they were overwhelmed by your generosity. The next time you see the husband or the wife, ask if your display of gratitude may have made them uncomfortable.

Dear Abby: My sister was spring cleaning recently and came across a 14-karat gold crucifix pendant she had found in front of our family’s house decades ago. Being nonreligious, my sister didn’t know what to do with it. I offered it to someone I know, but she doesn’t need another crucifix, so I’d like to know what should be done with it. — Respectfully Not Religious

Dear R.N.R.: If selling the crucifix doesn’t interest you, contact the nearest Christian church and talk to someone there about donating it so it can be given to someone who needs it, such as a recent convert or a newly confirmed young person.