Take a hint: She’s letting you down easy

Dear Abby: Two years ago, I bumped into a woman I had dated decades ago. We started dating again, even though she lives in Phoenix and I live in the Midwest. The geographical distance between us is challenging, but we made it work through phone calls and traveling to see each other at least once a month.

It was working so well that we began discussing my relocating to Arizona. I thought that was our future until this week. My lady friend just told me she wants to reduce the amount of phone calls and texting. She explained she needs more time to herself to deal with “challenges” she has been facing.

I feel like our relationship is heading for the rocks. When I expressed this, my girlfriend continued to insist everything is “fine” and we could have the same relationship with less contact. I disagree. What do you think? — Completely Thrown

Dear Thrown: Because this lady didn’t elaborate on what challenges she’s facing, I think the abrupt change in her behavior may be her way of trying to let you down easy. I can’t guess what may have caused her change of heart, but please accept my sympathy.

Dear Abby: A family member does beautiful scrapbooks year-round. Everyone enjoys looking at the finished product. I have become the photographer. Here is my dilemma: I know not everyone likes to have his or her picture taken. How do I approach this? I think it would be awkward to poll everyone about whether it’s OK before snapping their photos. A group shot at the end of, say, Christmas Day seems rather understated. Too often, I feel like the paparazzi. What are your thoughts? — Shutterbug in Colorado

Dear Shutterbug: My “thought” is that you are very considerate. In addition, I think that before snapping a picture it’s polite to ask the subjects if they would like to be included in the shot, or take a moment to put on some lipstick, a hat or pose with their “better side” to the camera. (It’s also a surefire way for anyone in witness protection to move out of range of the camera.)

Dear Readers: Happy Father’s Day to fathers everywhere — birth fathers, stepfathers, adoptive and foster fathers, grandfathers and all of those caring men who mentor children and fill the role of absent dads.

P.S. Also, a big shout-out to dual-role moms. I applaud you all — today and every day. — Love, Abby