Readers react sharply to teen’s actions
DEAR ABBY: Regarding “Needs a Playmate” (Feb. 15), I agreed with your advice to 7-year-old Jessie’s mom to make it clear that what happened was not her daughter’s fault. You also addressed Jason’s mother’s unwillingness to deal with the issue. However, I don’t believe your advice went far enough.
What 13-year-old Jason did was an attempt at sexual molestation. Chances are he has tried this behavior before. There is also the possibility that Jason himself has been a victim or has been exposed to sexually arousing material. In any case, he needs help. An investigation should occur to locate other possible victims. The appropriate reaction to something like this is to contact the local authorities. — Concerned Reader in Utah
DEAR READER: Thank you for raising this issue. Other readers were also concerned that my advice did not go far enough. Read on:
DEAR ABBY: In many states, if there is a four-year age gap between children who engage in “sex play,” it may constitute a crime. In many counties, children’s services will step in to investigate. Reporting this would be a good thing for him to ensure that he won’t eventually become part of the juvenile justice system. — A Little Shocked in Dayton, Ohio
DEAR ABBY: That 13-yearold boy attempted to sexually abuse Jessie. He may also have done other things to her that she may not be able to understand were wrong. Her mom should have her examined by a physician and get a referral for counseling. The police should also be notified. Don’t forget — Jason has a younger sister who could be a victim, too.
He’s old enough to know his behavior is wrong, and without intervention he could repeat it. Jessie may be at risk for being abused again and remain silent because she lost her friend when she told her mother what happened. Mom: Please don’t overlook this. — Nancy in New England
DEAR ABBY: When I watch videos on my laptop or phone, I usually use headphones. If the video is funny, I laugh. Like most people, I love comedy.
In recent months, my father has frequently made a point of telling me that my laughing is disturbing, especially when no one else can hear what I’m laughing at. He says the sound can be startling, and that I sound maniacal or hysterical. I feel guilty, and it tends to ruin whatever I’m watching.
What do I do to resolve this? — Laughing Out Loud
DEAR L.O.L.: Because you know your bursts of laughter startle your dad, view your videos in another room.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.