Mom’s mixed messages baffle teenager
DEAR ABBY: I’m 17. My mom and I often disagree on things. Don’t get me wrong — I don’t care what she does in her free time, but lately I have learned she’s talking to people about bisexuality.
I feel betrayed. When I told her I was gay, she rejected my sexuality, and now she’s possibly wanting relationships with other females? Even now, when we watch the news and something about the LGBT community comes on, she still mutters about marriage being between one man and one woman.
I don’t want things to escalate into a big blowup over this because our relationship is just being repaired. Please help me. Am I wrong to be concerned, or do I have the right to be? — Teen in Dayton, Ohio
DEAR TEEN: I don’t think it would escalate into an argument if you were to tell your mother you are confused by the mixed messages you’re getting from her. It should be the opening of an interesting discussion. It seems odd to me, too, that she would reject your sexual orientation if she’s leaning in both directions herself.
DEAR ABBY: I went on a road trip with a friend who is normally kind and generous. She insisted on driving the entire way. She often exceeded the speed limit and kept less than 20 feet between us and the 18-wheel truck ahead.
She read texts, answered her cellphone and made phone calls while she was driving. More than once she nearly hit a guardrail.
Can you give me a tactful way to tell her how dangerous her driving really is? — Terrified in Memphis
DEAR TERRIFIED: No, because it’s obvious that your friend is in deep denial not only about how dangerous her driving is, but also about how it affects her passengers and other drivers around her. But I can suggest that from now on, YOU provide the transportation if you’re going anyplace together.
DEAR ABBY: One day, I found two bottles of wine under my husband’s bed. I told him I had found them and he didn’t have to hide wine from me. Yesterday, I found two bottles of beer in his underwear drawer.
He is retired. I am still working. What should I do? — Perplexed in the South
DEAR PERPLEXED: Notify your doctor there has been a sudden change in his behavior and schedule physical and neurological exams for him. When seniors begin hiding items for no reason, it could indicate the onset of dementia.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.