Fiance won’t leave house for girls’ time

DEAR ABBY: I live with my fiance. When I asked him if he would stay with his parents or some friends on a weekend when my girlfriend comes into town, he said he isn’t leaving “his” house. I pay more than he does in rent, and I don’t feel I should have to rent a separate place.

He doesn’t understand girl time: drinking wine, watching chick-flicks and talking about our lives. I have told him that if he ever wanted me to stay with friends so he could have a guys’ weekend, I would have no problem with it. Am I asking for too much? — Needs Girl Time in North Carolina

DEAR NEEDS: I think expecting your fiance to leave is a bit much. Do you plan to make the same request after you are married?

I would think being subjected to one of your “girls’ weekends” would motivate him to make other plans. However, because he is unwilling, you and your girlfriend should consider splitting the cost of a hotel room for the weekend.

DEAR ABBY: Over the last 13 years in his job, my husband developed a “very friendly” relationship with a clerical person. Now that he has retired, she wants to continue it by meeting with him (and me) for dinner. We have had dinner together once, and when they began to talk shop, I became the odd one out.

Although I interjected myself into the conversation, it was clear there is real feeling between them. She continues to send emails addressed to both of us and asks me (since he is not computer savvy) to relay that he was her “ray of sunshine” when he would walk in the office.

Should I be worried, jealous or envious? — Uncertain in New Jersey

DEAR UNCERTAIN: I don’t think you have anything to worry about. That the conversation at dinner revolved around the office is not surprising. Because she’s sending emails addressed to both of you, I doubt she’s trying to slip anything past you. I suspect she will adjust to the loss of her “ray of sunshine.”

DEAR READERS: Tomorrow is Thanksgiving, and no Thanksgiving would be complete without the prayer penned by my dear late mother:

Oh, Heavenly Father, We thank Thee for food and remember the hungry.

We thank Thee for health and remember the sick.

We thank Thee for friends and remember the friendless.

We thank Thee for freedom and remember the enslaved.

May these remembrances stir us to service.

That Thy gifts to us may be used for others.

Amen.

Have a safe and happy celebration, everyone! — Love, Abby

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.