Steer clear of hot topics in workplace

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I live in a liberal college town in a more conservative state. So there’s a large mix, and I suppose you could call the overall atmosphere “moderate.”

As I work in customer service, I interact with a lot of people. One new employee, in her late teens or early 20s, saw a customer wearing a shirt with a religious message. As we helped the customer, I told her that I liked her shirt. Later, the new girl seemedabitirkedwithme and lectured me that she was agnostic. I explained that I tend to adopt a “live and let live” attitude.

Am I wrong for thinking that certain topics, such as politics and religion, should be off-limits when one is unaware of another’s affiliations?

GENTLE READER: The old rule about not discussing politics and religion seemed so antiquated until recent years, didn’t it?

Miss Manners is hereby resurrecting it and recommending that you ask your employees to observe it and that you adhere to it yourself.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I live in a very small one-bedroom apartment. We rarely entertain because of our space limitations. We have a dear friend, however, who lives several hours away and comes to visit us a few times a year, generally for a day or two.

His last visit occurred during the week, while I worked. I often work from home, and my desk is in the living room, where he slept. The evening he arrived, we informed him that we did have to work the next day and that I would be up early.

When I got up, he was still asleep and did not rise until almost noon! That meant I had to work in the dark (the blinds above where he was sleeping were closed) with only my computer screen for light for about four hours.

I even had to turn on my phone’s flashlight to read some paper notes. A few times he stirred, even at one point saying hello, but then went back to sleep.

Would there have been a point at which I could have finally turned on a light or made a phone call, surely waking him up, when it would not have been rude to do so?

GENTLE READER: That point would have been the first time your guest stirred and said hello. Or at the start of your workday.

Miss Manners finds you within your jurisdiction to announce, at the slightest stirring (or not), “Oh, are you up? Sorry, I am afraid that I have to turn on the light and get some work done. I hope it will not disturb you.”

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